One Hot Mess
I am in awe of people I know who save the world, build a skyscraper, cure cancer, run a marathon and be back home for 5pm to cook supper!?! Granted that might be a little over zealous, but everyone knows at least one person like this. You know who I’m talking about…The person who has kids, hobbies, pets, significant others, cook every day and pack a healthy lunch, go to the gym, are active members of clubs or teams, etc… AND manage to do it all. The part that boggles my mind is how effortless they make it look and how happy they are. How do they do it really?!
I am one of those people who thought that “routine” was synonymous with “boring”. That spontaneity is the key to an adventurous and exciting life. That having no routine meant that I lived by my own rules and was free to do everything I wanted, whenever the hell I wanted. Where has that gotten me exactly? Nowhere. I am the poster child for one hot mess. Chances are if you’re like me, your life may be fringing out of control in various areas. Although this may not be the case, you could probably benefit in reviewing what you do with your time, health, and money.
As for myself, I know I need to take a concerted look at my time and where I lose it most. I feel like I don’t have the time to do anything, although, I’m pretty sure I’m wasting a lot of it doing things that aren’t getting me anywhere (like watching endless hours of Netflix). I’m guilty of saying “I’d go to the gym, but I don’t have the time.” That’s utter bullcrap! Even I know it and it applies to other facets of my life. There is no reason why I can’t be fit, involved in my community and my family, educating myself, going to concerts, etc.! Really, there isn’t. What it boils down to, is honestly not having a plan and sticking to it.
I run around feeling like a headless chicken, trying to shuffle things around to make them work. What this has left me with is being stressed out that I have all these things to do, or haven’t accomplished because I’ve wasted my time being unorganized. If I would have made a plan or stuck to a routine of sorts, I probably would have been less stressed and more advanced in my life.
As I have come to learn, and in defeat I admit, there is method to this madness I call “routine”.
A good routine involves smart time / resource management, learning to prioritize and realizing what things (or people) are time vampires. What it comes down to is if you’ve got a plan, then you know where you’re going and how you stand. I believe it might actually be that simple. This is apparently, something l failed epically in implementing in my own life.
Routine doesn’t mean that you have start living your life like you run a naval ship; it might just mean being conscious of where you’re spending your precious resources. Whether that be time, love, money, friendship, talent, etc. For this time, we’ll stick to time. If you treat your time like a budget, you’ll become how much you have and where you can spend it. Scheduling your time is about avoiding double bookings and spreading yourself too thin, being able to account for yourself and accomplishing the tasks you’ve set out for yourself.
Organizing how you utilize your time may also teach you to do the same with other things such as a balanced pocket book, decluttering your space, calorie or exercise tracking, etc.
Having a regimen or a schedule doesn’t mean that you’re a lackluster person, it means you’ve realized what needs to be done and that you’re important enough to see that it gets done. You can be spontaneous, live a life full of adventure, but you have to keep in mind that you can’t neglect the basic housekeeping items in your life. In fact, I’d be willing to bet, that I’d probably have more time for fun and adventure if I organized my time better.