Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Let me preface this by saying I realize it isn't a big deal. I also realize that everyone is different. Maybe it is that second realization that even sparked the irritation, though.
To begin this little tale, I've been up sine 3:30am. Yesterday morning I was up at 4:22am. Our eldest son's wisdom teeth have started making an appearance. Of course, he doesn't understand this and it seems to be really bothering him. The pain does not seem severe, and it really is just progressing typically, but sometimes "typically" for him is anything but. I'm doing everything possible and am able to keep him mostly happy, but it's leading to very, very long days for me which sometimes results in a shorter bs tolerance level than I have on other days.
With that said, I was scrolling through FB during a few minutes of downtime and saw an acquaintance (who is on one of the shake challenge diets, purchased through a friend of course) had posted a photo of a buffet of sweets at her workplace. She was happy to have avoided temptation, which is great, and that was that. Except, at one point she said "I had a coworker describe to me how it tasted lol." To this, the challenge 'coach' replied "She won't have to describe how it looks on her! You'll be able to see it!"
This seriously SET ME OFF. For one thing, if belittling someone else is how you motivate, well, F* that. Secondly, the person may be in fine shape (turns out that was the case, in fact) and having a sweet item is no issue for them. Or, you know, the person may be on their own program and that food item has its place. Also possible is that they do not feel they need (or desire) to restrict foods and are totally comfortable with what they are doing. Hell, maybe they are 200 pounds thinner than they were two years ago and just wanted an effing cookie. Regardless of THEIR situation, I think it's tactless and irresponsible to encourage one person by putting down another. Finally, what if the coworker had been on FB, saw that, and was really (rightfully) offended/hurt/upset by it.
Now here's the thing - I do not believe she MEANT to be 'rude' about this other person. I'm certain she believed she was being encouraging and helpful. I do not believe that makes it acceptable, though. I am NOT a person who is always politically correct or worried about people being OVERLY sensitive, but there is a line and I think that line is even more firmly in place when you're trying to motivate others to feel good about themselves.
I also fully admit that some of this is because if I'm keeping track of every calorie, fat gram, and carb going into my body and specifically factor in being able to eat a cookie or cupcake, I'd better damned well not find out someone who doesn't even know me is making snide comments about my eating habits!
I promise, tomorrow's entry will be less ranty, but this just struck a chord.