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Wednesday, April 24, 2013

"Peace and contentment are feelings that take practice to achieve. They are not a consequence of being successful or being in love or being thin. They are, among other things, a consequence of stopping in the present moment and looking around." Geneen Roth

It's been 16 days since I started on a new path of accepting myself now, as I am, at this weight. It's been 16 days of allowing myself to eat portions that truly satisfy me and make me feel wonderful. And it's been 16 days in which I feel more and more free.

As is often the case, the amazing resources I find support my intentions beautifully. I'm a participant in a wonderful course called "Awakening Joy" by James Baraz.

I mentioned in an earlier blog that this month's theme is letting go and I'm finding this practice to fit in beautifully with my new way of life.

Here are some wonderful thoughts from James Baraz's teachings and how I see them connect to living a healthy life:

1. Letting go of the grips of attachment is challenging. We’re sure our happiness depends on having the beloved object, experience or a world of impermanence, where things constantly change, when we... don’t get what we want, our ability to accept our situation—a kind of letting go of what was—is crucial to our continued well-being..."

For me this means accepting my weight now, as I am, and loving being here even if it isn't the weight I might choose if I could wave a magic wand.

2. Letting go is an acceptance of the way things are. Holding onto what's changing brings us pain. Letting go brings us freedom from that pain.

For me this means saying goodbye to the myth of 120 pounds or less. (and good riddance, I might add) There is incredible freedom with this choice. I can see now just how unhappy I was trying to attain a weight that requires just too much work and anxiety.

3. Letting go is actually a movement towards simplicity, uncomplicating the mind as we free ourselves from the pull of more stuff or imagined needs.

I love this. I imagined I needed to be something I am not. And life feels so much simpler now that I've let go of this unnecessary striving.

4. Our ability to let go is an expression of contentment...Happiness doesn’t come from having the perfect circumstances. Rather, it’s based on how we relate to our circumstances.

This is so true, on so many levels. If we can be present and appreciate what is, life is so much better.

5. We are complete as we are and can practice the perspective that life has given us just what we need to wake up to life. Loving and accepting ourselves just as we are is an essential element.

Well, isn't this the ultimate goal? Loving and accepting ourselves NOW, as we are, feeling good now. Not when we get to that mythical arrival point! We are already there!

6.Life rarely follows our exact plans and the degree to which we are stuck in them will determine how much we suffer. People who’ve discovered the secret to happiness have flexibility with changing circumstances.

Well, between my husband's cancer and many other events this year, I have learned that life really doesn't go the way we plan. So flexibility is crucial to a happy life. Learning from every moment and every unexpected event with an open heart is crucial.

7. Letting go of the stories you tell yourself is another way to practice this theme. Open to the possibility that these thoughts might not be true. If they weren't, would it change how you feel about yourself or others?

I spoke about this in my last blog. I'd created a story in my mind that I was unsuccessful if I didn't weigh 120 pounds (about 10 pounds less than I weigh now and about 10 pounds less than I've weighed all my life), and believed that story for 31 years. I've finally realized that it isn't true, that I'm healthy and fit at 130 pounds, and it's completely changed how I see myself!

"Man can indeed partake in all creation if he switches on, deep inside, the will for life, the decision for happiness, the option for love. I have “decided” to love my life, to
throw in my gauntlet for it, to believe in it, to find it exalting in every respect, at
every moment, from the beginning to the end." Robert Mueller
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MINIUM 4/29/2013 2:06PM

    I just love reading your blogs! I like 2 phrases you've used in this one: 'impermanence' is what makes me feel most powerless. Everything changes and I don't have the time to... oh, well, too late to finish my sentence, everything has changed again and me too!
I also like 'the open heart' idea. It makes me feel lighter!
Well done for taking such good care of yourself. You do deserve it and so does your family (oxygen mask first!).
See you,

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--VICKI-- 4/27/2013 12:33PM

  This blog is one I really needed to read today. Thank you. emoticon

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WILSONWR 4/27/2013 7:34AM

    What a great breakthough, Julie! I am so happy for you as it appears you've finally found yourself. Congratulations!

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WHISPERINGPINE9 4/26/2013 8:36AM

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NUOVAELLE 4/26/2013 2:11AM

    Another great blog that is so relevant to many aspects of our lives and not just weight loss. Flexibility is indeed crucial to our state of being.
Happiness lies within. And that's where we should seek it.
Thank you for all the timely reminders.
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LIZARDG7 4/25/2013 7:55PM

    What a wonderful blog! Thank You!



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LRSILVER 4/25/2013 7:34PM

    Great. Hope your DH is okay.. emoticon

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TINAJANE76 4/25/2013 11:19AM

    Another wonderful blog, Julie. I just love the breakthrough that you've had and can feel the weight that's been lifted off your shoulders.

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RX_2_RV 4/25/2013 11:06AM

    Julie, I am so happy that you have had this breakthrough. I also want to thank you for taking the time to share your process with us. Your honest and thoughtful words are powerful, and have an effect on those who are ready to hear them.

Sending positive thoughts your way,

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MOBYCARP 4/25/2013 7:12AM

    "Happiness doesn’t come from having the perfect circumstances. Rather, it’s based on how we relate to our circumstances. "

I knew that, but sometimes it's nice to have a reminder. Thank you for the timely reminder.

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BROOKLYN_BORN 4/25/2013 6:28AM

    "Flexibility is crucial to a happy life"

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PHOENIX1949 4/25/2013 1:15AM

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WATERMELLEN 4/24/2013 6:43PM

    Such a profound blog, thank you.

We are okay NOW.

And we can decide to be happy with ourselves and the lives we have.

Sure beats the alternatives!!

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EJOY-EVELYN 4/24/2013 2:07PM

    For me, the ultimate test is my ability to find joy in all my circumstances ... And it truly brings to me an incredible peace when joy is experienced. Loved all the great insight in your blog. Congratulations on being such a great leader of success in this last 5% challenge.

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MKELLY72 4/24/2013 1:43PM

    What a wonderful blog! Wonderful news for you to be in such a happy place. This blog really speaks to me in my current circumstances as well--I've been struggling with how to lead my son toward this revelation lately--his girlfriend of almost 3 years has recently broken up with him, and it's very hard on him--especially when he has placed so much of his happiness in her--I just keep praying and asking for guidance in helping him--I'm still not sure how to lead him, but it's ultimately up to him.
Thank you for writing this blog!

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