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Tuesday, April 23, 2013

I'm an Emotional Eater.

Half the work I've done during my time on SP is getting to the root of this issue and address it by learning new coping techniques and defense mechanisms.

It's important to me that I sync up my brain and my body so that I don't just stuff my emotions down inside me with food, but allow myself to express them

I made a promise to myself that I would no longer be afraid of others thinking I was not the "nice girl" if I expressed myself. And I am no longer going to punish myself with food for the thoughtless things people say or do to me. Why should I when I am not the one who said or did something wrong?

If they don't want to deal with things getting messy or the air getting clear, then they can choose their words and actions carefully or hold their peace.

What kinds of changes and breakthroughs have you decided to make on your journey?


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KATRINA023 4/24/2013 12:07PM

    I've decided to be kinder to myself while learning how to make better choices and to be honest about some of the choices I'm making. Since starting SparkPeople in late February, I've been seeing how extensively my beliefs affect all my decisions. Sometimes I don't like what I see but so far I've been kinder and more consistent with staying focused with what I'm doing in life. Thank you for your encouraging blog. Fits with where I'm at in my journey.

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NELSONCHERYL59 4/23/2013 8:28PM

    Wow, that is great stuff. I tend to be a stuffer, not saying what i think or feel. My new years resolution was to speak up and share my thoughts and feelings. I have made progress. I have also crawled back into my quiet turtle shell. But, i keep workin on it. emoticon

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GAILANN48 4/23/2013 9:46AM

    What my own inner emotional eater heard from your blog was an intention to find approval and affirmation from other places than where you'd (= I'd) been seeking them.

If we're very blessed, there are a few very special people in our lives who gives us those things for the right reasons and in ways that build us up without enabling. At some crucial junctures, it may be only God who can do that.

I'm trying to work through these same issues, my friend, and you really made me think this morning. Thank you.

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SISSIE21 4/23/2013 9:23AM

    You are speaking my language with this blog! I have used food since I was a little girl to soothe and comfort and later as an adult to also punish myself. I would eat even when totally stuffed, knowing full well it was hurting my health. But still I would continue and the self hate and despair would increase. Food and emotions-very powerful stuff. It is a deeply rooted problem going back to childhood in my opinion. A habit of self soothing or emotional numbing that only leads to heartache and misery.

I think the most important promise I made to myself was not to use food to manage my emotions. That it is fuel for my body, not a comfort measure. I also decided to get off the self hate train and treat my body with as much kindness as I try to treat others. That I deserved respect as well from myself.

To that end, I try to stay focused on the positive, do not allow myself to dwell on problems for too long, instead look for solutions in order to get out of those feelings of helpless anger or frustration that would make me turn to food. I also use walking to deal with stress and negative feelings. It really helps and seems to be working.

But I am very diligent and when I see myself eating a bit more than usual, I always check in with myself to see what is going on inside. It is never about the food.

Thank you for your honest, thought provoking post! emoticon emoticon

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DAYSPRING-STAR 4/23/2013 8:58AM

    Great blog! I've implemented, among others, two conceptual changes that are helping me progress away from emotional eating:

1. Establishing a mantra: "Gratitude is the attitude." The emotion or state of appreciation rarely drives me to eat or binge.
2. If an irritating situation is beyond my control, I change my attitude. My attitude is always within my control.


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BIGPAWSUP 4/23/2013 8:58AM

    I lost/turned away from "friends" that really weren't.

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KITT52 4/23/2013 8:16AM

    to stop eating in fast food restaurants....

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NUTRON3 4/23/2013 8:05AM

    To eat healthy and to think before acting

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MJREIMERS 4/23/2013 7:37AM

    I think many of us are or were emotional eaters. I used to, but I've beaten the beast...for the most part.

I think we go through stages in our lives. When I was younger, I was very outspoken. Then, came kids and I held my tongue more. Perhaps thinking I was setting a good example. Now that I'm in my mid 40's I'm back to speaking up. Not cruelly or being mean, but speaking honesty.

I really think once we find "our voice" the emotional eating decreases. We don't hold things in or comfort ourselves with food. We let it out, get it off our chests and then the "emotional" part is less which equals less emotional eating.

Great blog! emoticon

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HAPPYMENOW58 4/23/2013 7:15AM

    Good, honest blog....Emotional eating is really tough for me, too. I have purchased emotional eating books and workbooks that have really helped me the last couple of years....All the exercises provided have given me insight...Let me know if you'd like the names of them....I would be happy to email you the names....Best of luck in your journey....I give you a lot of credit for recognizing your causes of emotional overeating....Many people stay in denial for so long...and just can't break through that denial stage! emoticon

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