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Monday, April 22, 2013

This is hard to admit, but here I go.

I found out a few weeks ago that my poor husband has been sleeping several hours out of every night on the floor or on the sofa. You see, three years ago I gained about 40 pounds and developed a snoring issue due to apnea and reflux. It seems it's gotten quite bad and he hides out during the worst parts of the night. I've gone to the dr and done a sleep study a couple years ago because my dh said I was snoring. (Didn't know it was THAT bad!) My dr wanted to treat the apnea, but my insurance said it wasn't bad enough and they won't pay for treatment. Long story on trying to get a mouthpiece - turns out I'm a jaw clincher too! So the mouthpiece didn't work because I was damaging my jaw.

I'm so embarrassed. He didn't tell me he was actually having to leave our room to sleep. I choked and woke up and found him trying to sleep on the floor in the other room. I can't believe he's been doing this all this time and I didn't even know. My weight isn't just affecting me. I feel so down that I've been doing this to him.

So I've been trying to eat really healthy since April 1st, but my weight just isn't moving much. Doesn't help that I had my 40th birthday this month too. I'm really trying to get things moving though. I'm surprised at how resistant my weight is being.

Well, time for bed. Hope I can make our nights better soon!
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GAYLLYNNE 4/24/2013 6:57AM

    Hang in there. I started snoring when I gained the weight too. (luckily, I don't share a bed) but the good news is, as you lose, you will be doing that less and less. Make sure you keep monitored by a doctor and good luck. You will get through this. Your hubby sounds like a keeper!!

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ROSE-GARDEN 4/23/2013 5:51PM

    Thank you all for such great encouragement! I know my wonderful hubby is worried about me and he's trying to help in all kinds of ways. I did have PCOS and had a total hysterectomy in 2006 because of that and endo. These do really slow down the weight loss! It's frustrating.


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HEIDISHOPE 4/23/2013 12:30PM

    My hubby is the one with the sleep apnea in our house. As one who is the recipient of the snoring, here's a bit of insight... The reason he leaves the room is because he knows you aren't sleeping well to begin with and if he bothered you every time the snoring bothered him, he knows you'd get even less sleep. Usually when a person is snoring is when they are sleeping the deepest. Your beloved wanted you to get your deep sleep. Give him extra hugs for showing his love in this way. A machine is SOOOOOOOO worth it!!!!!! It will not only safeguard your marriage, but your very life!! I urge you to find a way to get the treatment you need.

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JENNYFAYE55 4/23/2013 9:09AM

    Just keep doing what you can to adopt healthy eating, sleeping and exercise habits. The fat loss and weight loss aren't the same thing. As fat turns to muscle, you may not lose weight as fast as you might think, but it WILL come off. We don't gain weight overnight and we can't lose it over night... but think of where you will be in another month or two or twelve!

I know you sweet husband is glad that you are taking better care of yourself. If he has been considerate enough to sleep in another room without complaining to you about it, he is a rare gem. I am sure he wants you to be healthy... not just slim or a quiet sleep-buddy.

You are on the right path. Just stay on it. Now you have even more motivation... to help your DH get a good night's rest by your side! What a great motivator!


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SLAVEBLUERAVEN 4/22/2013 11:37PM

    Focus more on eating healthy than on your weight! You being healthier is more important than the weight loss! emoticon emoticon

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TLG71567 4/22/2013 11:07PM

    I've been dealing with much the same issues. I just found out that I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, which it turns out is responsible for my weight gain (and my inability to lose it), my sleep apnea and a slew of other things. I am hoping that once I start receiving treatment for that, that the other things will start falling into place. You should check into PCOS. It causes a lot of different symptoms.

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