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Choose your hard. A key to success.

Sunday, April 21, 2013

I'm sure everyone has heard or read this saying:

'Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Choose your hard.'

Well let me just tell you one thing. Being fat was not hard for me. It was easy. Losing weight is hard.

Am I the ONLY one who feels this way? I swear it feels like I am. I see people all the time say 'it was hard to be fat, it's hard to lose weight. Choose your hard.'
And I'm all.....

You see, I was creeping up way over 250lbs on my way to 300lbs. So it's not like I had just (just!) a couple pounds to lose or anything. (No offense to the peeps with a small amount to lose...I swear, the last 20 just may be the hardest to lose). I was looking at a significant amount to lose.

I didn't have health problems besides I'm sure a higher resting heart rate. But my joints were alright, I could walk around just fine, I ate enough protein and fruits and veggies (just waaaayyyyyy too much...and way too much sugar and carbs and junk food and eating out). I'm sure the sedentary lifestyle I was leading would have lead to health problems in the future, and perhaps they were brewing under the surface, for for all intensive purposes, I was a 'relatively healthy' (if there is such a thing) obese person.

Being fat wasn't hard for me.

Sure, with it came the little things- not as much attention from the guys...or from anyone for that matter.
But I have thought about it often over the past year or two, and for me it wasn't that hard to be fat.

Now, losing weight? That requires dedication, hard work and planning. Three things I didn't have to have to get fat.
I enjoy working out and being active, so for me it comes down to the food. Maybe some people struggle with both of these areas. Or just the exercise area.
But there it is.
A person who is on a weight-loss journey has to be more mindful to lose weight than to get fat. Perhaps it is in one area or another, but I would hazard a guess that anyone who is on a weight lose journey may find either/both the food or/and exercise part hard at some point or another.

But it comes down to this. And this is the most important part. Read closely and let the words bounce around in your head for a while.

And to truly be successful this is the best way to look at it:

You have to want it. You have to realize that the benefits of that hard work will outweigh the hard parts, or even the ease of being overweight. You'll trade the time spent sitting on the couch eating chips for cooking healthy foods or spending that time at the gym.

Because truly I say to you: Being fit, healthy and slimmer is far more fun than being fat ever was.

So if you think being fat is easier, I say this is better. And this wins over being fat any day.

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    So true! emoticon
    1722 days ago
    Being fat for me IS hard. It's hard to move around, it's hard to feel comfortable in my own skin, it's hard to have the courage to go outside, it's def hard on my joints, my knees, going up AND down stairs. But it is also incredibly EASIER to be fat than fit. And that is because despite all the hard stuff, I would get to come home at night and plop on the couch and stuff my face until I collapsed in bed. Now, I have to work hard all day, portioning food, planning in advance and exerting physical energy for exercise. And then I get home, and I have to keep working FREAKIN' hard. And that's why this journey is taking me so long. But I do believe it will be worth it.
    1729 days ago
    Love the blog! you are right to some it may be easy to be overweight so why try? You hit the nail on the head it is WORTH IT!!!

    1734 days ago
  • FARRAH511
    Completely agree with u.

    I wasn't really big when I started, but my eating habits were awful, not healthy at all... I feel a lot better now, I'm not there yet, but on my way...

    Have a Marvelous Day and thanks for the blog!

    1736 days ago
    I totally agree with you. At my highest weight (288), I was 26 years old and didn't have any health problems. Life wasn't hard. Sure I was embarrassed and self conscious, and air plane seats were snug - but day to day life was easy. No planning, eat what you want. I think the problem lies in the fact that getting fat is easy and by the time you get to the point that being fat is hard - you don't have the energy to do anything about it and it seems impossible. So yes, being fat can be easy, but it is definitely not satisfying.

    I saw an infomercial once where a man who had lost weight with diet and exercise said, "Yes, it is hard to workout for an hour a day. But because of that one hour, I get more life out of the other 23."

    I choose to get more out of life.
    1736 days ago
    Immediately after my obese mom had her first cancer surgery & hysterectomy, two different doctors made a point to talk to ME. I was not obese yet, but was getting close.

    Their terse words to me were, "This operation would have been much much easier for your mom if she had not been so overweight." Silence.......... My friends who are battling cancer tell me, as they refuse chocolate & cookies, "Cancer cells like chocolate & fat....I don't want to feed it to them."

    There are some "hard" things down the road that we can't see. Like visceral fat surrounding our vital organs and choking their ability to function. That's what I call "hard!" If you can conquer this problem in your 30's or 40's, your life will be greatly enhanced. Just do it and reap the benefits NOW! emoticon
    1737 days ago
    You're right, there's no easy way to get there....but that's what gives us pride in our achievements!

    Stay Strong!
    1737 days ago
    Being fat was/is hard for me! It was especially hard at over 300 lbs. My job requires me to be on my feet most of the day, and right now since I am about 25 lbs over my lowest weight I feel it! At the end of the work day my knees, feet and back ache when they didn't before. It stinks. I guess I get that saying about how being fat is hard. Although I know it's pretty easy spending the evening with your feet propped and a spoonful of Ben & Jerry's in your mouth. Yep, that's pretty easy, but the rest of the day is tricky. Having every step feel like youre carrying a pile of bricks on your back...oof. Not so good.
    1737 days ago
    I completely agree. Being fat was easy for me too. Then I got tired of it and decided to change.
    1737 days ago
    Totally agree with you! Great points!
    1737 days ago
    Yes, it IS worth it. Getting fat was easy - living while fat was easy - until it was NOT - so I would have to say the pain, really serious health risks, and just plain loneliness made it hard eventually - because like you I had and still have A LOT to lose. I have made progress and am still working on it, but it is definitely WORTH IT to ME and your blog was a wonderful and honest one that said a LOT that I can relate to.
    1737 days ago
    Wonderful blog. I remember my father once saying to me that when you don't make a decision, you are making a decision. Being fat for me was not doing anything about it. That decision was easy. Maybe not always comfortable, but much easier than making the decision to change my lifestyle. Lots of people keep saying tiny steps. I keep saying to myself tiny decisions that will eventually add up.

    Thanks for this! emoticon
    1737 days ago
    I totally agree. I wasn't having any health problems - all of my "hard" about being fat was the shame that came with it, and I definitely put a lot of shame on myself. But losing weight - GAH that is a million times harder...still, I would much rather be battling on this journey than still up at my highest weight!!
    1737 days ago
    I enjoyed your blog... I started at 287 pounds... and it's been a long, long, journey, one that I now realize will go on as long as I'm alive.... but it has and is SO worth it!
    Thanks for the reminder....
    1737 days ago
    Super blog: and absolutely, it's worth it.

    How long does that tempting taste last on our lips? Minutes only . . . and the first bite tastes the best anyhow.

    And how long do the excess calories last on our hips? Right!
    1737 days ago
    I totally agree. I was obese but getting good check ups from my doctor. I was 40 lbs overweight but still healthy especially compared to the rest of the family. Being fat was easy besides being worn out after not doing much at all. Giving up the loads of energy I have after my loses so far, now THAT would be hard. :)
    1737 days ago
    I loved your blog! So true... There is hidden struggle in loosing weight, because as much as we can see the negative things of being fat, it was kind of easy to get there and stay there somehow...
    Thanks a lot because this blog has left a nice feeling in my soul... It is worth it!! I know it, but it's nice to hear it from someone else.
    1737 days ago
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