dating and needing to be thin
Sunday, April 21, 2013
I reentered the dating market. I noticed that men clearly don't want a woman that is overweight, obese or has the slightest amount of extra body fat. They want a woman in the lower half of the normal range or even underweight. It's more than fitness. A woman needs certain dimensions to attract a man. It would benefit me to have a smaller waist since I'm apple shaped. I might blame genetics for my large waist/hip ratio since both my parents carry their extra weight in their abdomen. However, it's changing with exercise and diet so it isn't destiny; I can change it with a lot of work.
I also realize that I really just started working out. At the Y, I walked a lot and took easy exercise classes. I didn't know what it meant to get fit. I had a lower expectation of what it meant to be fit. I'm now at a fitness club. There I'm nowhere near being fit. I can do some of the workouts for the whole hour, but not at full intensity. My coordination is awful. I'm know I'll get better and I'm encouraged since I've only been there a little more than two weeks and I see improvement already.
I hardly sweated when I worked out when I joined. Now, I get a good sweat going. I can feel my muscles work. I feel like I'm pushing myself something I rarely felt at the Y. I want to look and feel good for the rest of my life.
I'm going to give myself a non-weight oriented goal. I'll start with staying in my calorie range and getting all my fruits and vegetables. I'll see if that helps me to focus on my health and not the numbers on a scale.
This link shows the importance of staying thin. www.dailymail.co.uk/fema
I know men appreciate a thin figure. Most think fat woman are unattractive. Many I have dated didn't like skinny women, but fuller figures. Still, anything over a size 10 (today's vanity sizes) is too big for the meat market out there.