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Make it a Better Day

Sunday, April 21, 2013

My husband has been away all week. He was supposed to be home this morning. I missed him so much, and I was so excited to have him back home that I woke up early, cleaned the house, prettied myself up a bit, and prepared a special breakfast. Then, when he didn't show up at the expected time, I called him... only to find out that he decided to go to his mother's before he comes here, so he won't be home until late this evening.. or even tomorrow. I am so disappointed... and I reacted like a little kid, completely falling apart. Yes, I had a temper-tantrum complete with tears and stomping feet... and NO it didn't really make me feel any better. Depression and disappointment don't mix well. There's nothing inherently wrong with what my husband decided to do, except that he should have told me earlier what he had planned. Still, I'm angry and hurt, even if its irrational. I sent a couple of biting text messages before I got my emotions in check. Now I just feel so down that I am very tempted to crawl back in bed and spend the whole day moping there.

But what am I helping by indulging in a pity party? And who am I hurting? Its not like my sorrow is going to move my husband, he is blissfully unaware of how his change-of-plans spoiled my morning. I can tell you he has already shrugged off my ugly text messages and is merrily going about his business. Hiding in my bed is not going to help my depression, its only going to feed it and make it deeper.

SO... I have fed my special breakfast to my boys. Miss Patricia has been bathed and fed and prettied up as well. And Alexander got a shower and is dressing up as I type, and we are going to walk to town. (My other son wants to stay home.) Patricia will go in her sling, which makes it at least a little easier on my back. Its 5k into town, so I will log some nice exercise minutes on the way. (I will probably take public transportation back home - by the end of the day my back will be shot and I'll be too tired for the walk home.) We don't need anything particular in town, so I'm not sure what we'll do while we are there. I don't have extra money this month to splurge on anything special... but maybe we'll stop some place for a soda. It will be nice to get out of the house, and this is a nice opportunity to have some almost-individual time with my younger son... who is probably feeling rather desperate for the attention since the new baby arrived.

So, here's to making it a better day!
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    I would have been disappointment, too, if I was expecting my husband after an absence and he decides to go see his mother before me! But, you sure turned that around quickly and put Plan B into motion. Sounds like you had a wonderful time with your son.

    So, you DO carry Patricia when you are walking! WOW, that burns up even more calories! You ROCK!
    1767 days ago
    i would have had a tantrum as well Hope. one day I got so mad at my husband, because he was so mad at me over something REALLY stupid. I was putting away dishes and I was just getting ready to say something ugly and before I knew it, a plate went flying out of my hand and embedded itself in the kitchen wall. I have since glued it in there and pout a frame of chalkboard paint around it and wrote "better a broken plate than a hateful word spoken".

    it was a very valuable lesson for me and so worth the expense of my fiestaware plate! and no, I didn't speak that hateful word. not that I condone the throwing of plates either! I honestly believe God had me do that. He knows....!

    I hope that you are up and over your bad mood!
    1769 days ago
    I would have been upset in your situation as well, especially since he didn't let you know about his plans. However, I think you handled it well by deciding not to let it ruin your day. I hope you enjoyed the time spent with your son and the trip into town!
    1769 days ago
    Men are truly blessed. They seem to be blissfully unaware of our emotions even when they're in the same room as us!
    Good for you for not letting your disappointment ruin your day. Your son will cherish the time with you! Have fun!
    1770 days ago
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