Saturday, April 20, 2013
I had some good advice from another Sparker the other day (RX_2_RV). She suggested I write the apology I wish I had gotten from the person who told me to keep my "fat clothes". I think this is a great idea. Those words have loomed over me for 10 or so years now. Every time I do well, I fear I will fail. Every time I fail, I hear those words ringing in my ears. I really don't think he meant them to be so powerful in my life. But I think they speak to the fear deep in me that 1.) I can't get there. 2.) If I do, I won't be able to maintain it.
So here goes the apology:
I am sorry that I spoke those words to you so long ago. I should have said, "Way to go! You are really making changes in your life! What are you doing different that you have come this far?" Instead, I spoke out of my own experience with people in my life who have not been able to maintain their weight loss. Please don't let those words define your efforts to a healthy lifestyle. Get rid of the clothes that are too big! And keep on keeping on."