Saturday, April 20, 2013
Moving on in the Mind Over Body series and today I am reviewing the article titled Toxic Guilt.
This article speaks to me on such a deep level. I would say on a daily basis I start out with the best of intentions and great plans for nutrition and exercise. Then I get to work and someone brings the doughnuts. Before I know it, it's lunch and I'm eating fast food, drinking pop and by bedtime I have skipped the workout, consumed 3K calories and am blasting myself with the most negative self talk laying on a toxic guilt trip of epic proportions.
Don't get me wrong, guilt can be a good thing. It can sometimes prevent us from making mistakes and letting us know when we are letting ourselves or others down. But when it occurs after the fact and is so destructive that you make yourself crazy with negative self talk then it is no longer helpful and it becomes "toxic".
So how do we end the toxic guilt?
When the nagging voice starts giving you grief about what you are about to do, then stop and ask yourself "Is this what I REALLY want to do"?
If you agree with the voice then STOP and don't do it! If you don't agree with the voice then rock on.
Once the decision is made, notice how you feel.
That's it. Be sure to file it away for future reference.
I know some people think that they don't hear the voice until its too late, but I can say that I know I hear it. I just tend to ignore it. I have to work on acknowledging this voice in order to reduce my own toxic guilt.
Practice makes perfect here.
What do you do when that voice starts talking? Do you listen? If not how do feel afterwards?