Thank you for all the thoughtful comments and prayers for my sister-in-law/best friend and her baby girl, my new niece.
To be honest, the whole situation has just uprooted us all, but we are, as families tend to do, backing each other up with plenty of support for the new arrival.
I don't think the severity of this has quite hit everyone yet, including the new mommy, who is working on getting herself healthy-thank goodness.
It's just all very emotional. And I am doing what I tend to do best, reading scary Internet material. Def. going to stop doing that, because every time I check Facebook or anything I just expect a horrible update on baby girl.
I guess what is bothering me, is when people comment on how tiny she is, in my head I just panic and want to scream, "thats not good people!" but sure as hell not going to be that downer so I just nod and smile. The truth is 90% of preemies go on to be fine so I am praying for the guidance of all the medical staff who are so dedicated to her around the clock.
In the meantime, there is my other 2 yr old niece to consider who is just as energetic as ever and extremely confused by all the visits. We let her daughter and my daughter play together for awhile yesterday and they laughed, and cried, and screamed...like typical 2 yr olds.
The thing that worries me though is that my sister in laws PRIMARY number one babysitter- is her mom...who is my LAST ABSOLUTELY IF I HAVE NO ONE ELSE babysitter. And its not like my sister in law has a choice, her husbands mom refuses to watch their 2 yr old by herself (no idea what kind of grandmother does that, but whatever)
We both agree she is a very affectionate grandma, and she knows the kiddos as well as any other grandma, but she doesn't change diapers as often as she should (I can't remember a time when Caley didnt come back from her house with a huge diaper rash) and she doesn't clean. She stresses the hell out of us. It has always been our secret to ask each other to take special care of each others daughters when Cindy was put in charge. Not to mention, poor Cindy, her daughter and her new grand daughter are hurting and so is she.
If its her house, fine, I limit the visiting time and just panic over potential accidents the whole time the kids are there, but yesterday when we picked up my daughter the girls had done a number on nearly EVERY room in the living area of my sister in laws house. Toys everywhere, clothes and baskets, DOG KIBBLE for Gods sake, kitchen chairs overturned, it looked like chaos.
And, I doubt anyone thought to clean it up. I might be making some more trips down there, much to the displeasure of my daughter who did not appreciate the long car rides, but if I can help in anyway be it cleaning, cooking, dog sitting, etc. That's what I'm here for!
In other news, calories yesterday way over- fitness- I am lucky if I got some minutes walking around the hospital, mental health all over the place, and motivation yesterday was nonexistent.
Today my husband and I are trying for normality with in our family, groceries, errands, etc. We have dinner planned with my stepdad. So, at least I can track some things while I am on call for those that need me 2 hours away.