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Hard couple days

Saturday, April 20, 2013

My mom is getting frailer. She has Alzheimer's and we all know that even with lots of support it's only a matter of time before she will need more care then she can get living alone. But during her last check up the Dr found something troubling . She was sent to an oncologist on Thursday. Evidently it's a very large mass. she goes for surgery on Wednesday. If all goes well and it is benign she will be in the hospital three days and then come here to recover. If it isn't benign we will need to deal with that. She's very scared and can't really follow what is happening. I've rearranged my schedule to be able to go up (she lives an hour and a half away) and spend the day and night before the surgery with her. We need to make sure she doesn't eat and does the pre-op stuff. We are also busy with moving my 17 yo to an upstairs bedroom so my mom can have his room. It involves no stairs and is close to the bathroom. But a teen boy has lived in it for years and needs major cleaning and rearranging before my mom will be comfortable there!

I have been pretty stressed . I managed not to over eat too badly Thursday night (I ate some in the evening but not too bad). It was a struggle yesterday as well. I'm doing OK but the temptation to say the heck with it is strong. My 20 yo went away this weekend and took my car so I'm stuck at home with only the food here. There isn't a lot of junk. So that's a blessing.
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LADYFROMTHEWOOD 4/20/2013 7:42AM

    Take some time for you for just 30 minutes today, just to hoop or walk or something. Don't set yourself up for burn-out. Try not to worry too much, we can only do what we can do, and the rest tends to take care of itself.

I am extremely sorry to hear you are dealing with your mother's Alzheimer's and now surgery. My own mother is showing early signs but is still in the stage of functioning on her own and in denial. She is married so there is nothing we kids can do until she worsens to the point that it has to be dealt with. We feel very helpless. Having cared for my father-in-law during his last year of dementia, and worked in a nursing home, and having Alzheimer's in my family (grandfather and aunt) I know how heartbreaking it can be. My prayers are with you.

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