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Friday, April 19, 2013

Auguste Renoir: Luncheon of the Boating Party
Date 1881
Source Phillips Collections, Washington

I’m having dinner with an old friend tonight and I’m really looking forward to it. I can’t describe how different this is for me since when I was in the grasp of the sugar-salt-fat triad I went out to eat more often but it was not the company I sought, it was the fix. When I look back on it, it frightens me. In fact, most of my go-to-dinner pals from that era don’t invite me out much anymore. I don’t get down with them like I used to.

I experienced a transformation. I decided for a treat for losing 40+ pounds, I was going to go and get professionally fitted for a bra at a lingerie shop. I now own lingerie made in France, which I thought was far beyond my reach. Little did I know, that with proper guidance, I could wear this. I can’t tell you what a difference this is making for me. Not only has my appearance improved 100% with this purchase but my mood is instantly elevated when I see these beautiful things on me.

I have never been big into “girly” underwear. It has not been an option for me because of a variety of circumstances. When I was young, the really beautiful lingerie was out of question for me because of the cost. As I moved up in sizes, it wasn’t an option. For the last 10 years I suffered from such body shame that I wouldn’t have dared to be fitted. So I did the same thing I did with clothes, I measured myself and ordered on the internet.

Today I am the proud owner of some very expensive and worth every cent underthings. At the shop where I made my purchase, they assured me that when I lose more weight, they can alter the garment for fit. So I was sold.

My point is that some things have changed for me. I do miss my old going-to-dinner pals but I see why they don’t want to dine with me anymore. I’m not into that same bliss experience.

I’m more focused now on eating a meal that will contribute to my health. I do my homework and choose restaurants where I can eat a healthy meal and plan to I stay within my calorie range.

If you are looking for a treat for yourself and you’re in the same boat as me, I highly recommend getting fitted for lingerie by a professional. So truth in advertising, I called them before I went to be sure that the sizes they carried went up to what I thought would be my band size and they said, oh come on in. You’re going to be surprised at your size. They were right. I am stunned. I am down 3 sizes smaller than I thought and 6 sizes smaller than where I started with my ill-fitting garment.

"Luncheon of the Boating Party" captures both my thinking about eating out (everyone at the table is engaged with each other) and the women look like my new underwear makes me feel.

Have a great weekend.
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    I'm glad I ran across your blog and this post. I'm adding this fitting experience to my goal list. What a wonderful thing to do! Thanks.
    1787 days ago
    So Great! I have a personal goal of saving up to get new underthings soon. I have had the vision for some time about how great they will feel! Thank you for the wonderful affirmation. Dinner with friends - yes!!!
    1790 days ago
    OOOH, LA LA! Vous etes tres chic! Thanks for sharing. I was just thinking this morning how I am not feeling good about my clothes and underwear - you are an inspiration that one is never too late or old to look/feel good!
    1791 days ago
  • JUDY106
    Great blog. You are doing so great. Keep on loving yourself. Good luck with the dinner out. I lost all my old eating out buddies too. Now, I have new friends that see food in a different light.

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    1792 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/20/2013 1:17:38 AM
    This journey to a healthier lifestyle affects our decision making processes! So happy for you that you are enjoying the transformations. emoticon
    1792 days ago
    I am so happy for your great transformation. You now are more in feminine side. Congrats !!
    What a beautiful way to treat yourself. WTG for the Lingerie. (*^^*) I haven't wear them for long time. I feel much comfy with my sports bra and simple undies. But maybe sometime in the future you never know. Hope you enjoy your dinner with friend. Have a nice weekend.
    1792 days ago
    FANTASTIC STORY - I loved your blog - it was really a very meaningful one.
    1792 days ago
    What a great blog! It made me smile. I, too, have had the experience of wearing underwear that I thought would never fit. I have moved from the "plus sizes" to the "regular" large sizes. I recently made my first trip across the Department store from the "Women's Dept" to the "regular" dept. I moved from the equivalent of a 48H to a 40 C. My underwear is not imported from France but it's ecstasy inducing. My underpants remain cotton and sensible, but I have moved from a size 11-12-13 to a size 8!

    It's hard when you have "eating" friends. I have transformed a couple of my "eating" friends into people who are willing to go to some of the restaurants here that are healthier.

    Success here has made me all the more determined to avoid eating junk and/or casually munching on things that might not be junk per se, but are caloric.

    I loved this blog and your illustration from Renoir! Chouette!
    1792 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/19/2013 5:59:52 PM
  • LYNCHD05
    There is nothing more special than lovely lingerie. It is only for you and makes you feel so special. Good for you that you have treated yourself so well!!!!!
    1792 days ago
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    1792 days ago
    emoticon Well done!! Had a fitting a number of years ago, but was still at a very "large" size. Down now and wearing a different size, but have fit myself. Maybe as I continue to lose I'll have to! Great story!! Love, Jeannie
    1792 days ago
    That is definitely something I would not have thought of doing. As you say, there is the cost, and the size, and in my case, I haven't thought much about dressing sexy since my divorce... but maybe it is time...

    1792 days ago
    You and my DD have convinced me. I am going for a professional bra fitting and purchase. You both make it sound worth it.
    1792 days ago
    It is really great when our enjoyments change due to motivation. Good on you.
    1792 days ago
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