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How do you see yourself?

Friday, April 19, 2013

Dove soap company put out this video: realbeautysketches.dove.

It's worth watching the whole 6:36 minutes. This was an experiment on how people (mostly women) see themselves. The visual is powerful!

They met this sketch artist, who never turned around to see them, and were asked to describe themselves. Naturally, they were critical and pointed out every perceived flaw and magnified issues they might have.

They were also asked to get to know one other person in this experiment. They were asked to describe the other person. They were much nicer describing the other person and the sketches reflected it.

The lesson to get from this experiment is to stop being so critical of yourself. Other people will not see the flaws, only the beauty, especially if your beauty is reflected from within. People don't remember the details of a brief encounter, they remember the way you treated them. If you are kind to one another, they will only see the beauty, but if you are harsh to everyone, you will be seen as ugly. Either way, your actual self will not be seen as what you really look like.

Be the kindest person you can be and people will see you for your inner beauty. They don't see the crow's feet or dark circles under your eyes, they just see the glow you exude from being a kind person. You need to be as kind to yourself as a stranger.

On this Snow Day the holidays are: National Hanging Out Day, National Day of Silence, Humorous Day, and National Amaretto Day. I guess we're hanging out here, but I doubt it will be in silence, I'll have to take this day as humorous with an additional 6 inches of snow and if I drank, I might just need one today. Thanks a lot Mother Nature!
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    Thanks for sharing that video! I think I am an attractive woman and wouldn't have trouble describing my facial features, though modesty might hold me back. ;-) However, I think describing my BODY would be another story. I know that I am not really fat but I see a big paunch in my belly and I've never liked my legs, so I think if I had to describe the rest of me, the drawing would make me look bigger than I actually am.
    1732 days ago
    Thanks for sharing this. Very eye-opening. I hope I can get my 17-year-old daughter to watch.
    1733 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    That was a very touching video. When will we learn to love ourselves and not be so critical of our flaws? This was a very moving commercial and I hope we can all learn from it.
    Thanks for posting it! emoticon
    1733 days ago
  • TANYA602
    I saw this yesterday and I actually shared it with our middle school teachers - our girls are in such an awkward body image stage at this age and it's something that continues, obviously, thru adulthood. I thought about it all day. I think that one thing that's tricky is that some of us are so inclined to think that others will believe we are conceited, or have huge egos, if we project that we are happy with our bodies. I don't know how to really say what I mean here, but I guess it's all about how we are raised, and I guess I wasn't raised to feel like it was about how I looked so much as how I behaved and took care of business. Does that make sense?
    1733 days ago
    Thank you for sharing the video. My own self image is very critical and I know this is something I need to work hard on.
    1733 days ago
    Thank you for sharing that video.
    I could use a day of silence emoticon
    1733 days ago
    I read an article in the paper about this. Not surprising.
    1733 days ago
    emoticon I think Dove did a really good thing. Saw it on facebook as a link.
    1733 days ago
    That was really cool. I don't know where you find these things. When I first started watching because of your blog I knew where it was headed, but my first impression of the women that they were all very naturally beautiful...fresh and pretty. It's a shame that we pick apart our looks so much. Each one of us is beautiful in our own way. Thanks for helping us to see that.
    Also thanks for the Goodie. You're a good friend. It's always nice to know that there is always a familiar face around the corner on these pages.
    I'm praying still that you get warmth and sunshine soon. emoticon
    1733 days ago
    Very touching to see... Eye-opening for sure. I know I don't see myself as others necessarily do, and we, as women, can be so cruel to ourselves...
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    I am very critical of myself and see every flaw even when others compliment me on this. This is something I am aware of and trying to stop, but it is hard to stop something that you have been doing all your life. I do see things in the mirror that I like as well.
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