Thursday, April 18, 2013
During my recent trip through the US.........a road trip from Illinois through the south to New Orleans and back..........I interacted and observed quite a variety of people.
What seemed to me to be the most important features in understanding the person was
1) Their demeanor (facial expressions) and verbal expressions (word choice, tone of voice)
2) Their grooming
3) Their clothing choices
It certainly wasn't their weight. Yes, someone very different from the norm (excessively thin or excessively large) would be observable because they are just that.....different from the physical norm. My only judgement there would have been for potential health problems......not rejecting them for it, just as data.
Of course, when travelling, one is not really trying to make lasting relationships. Basically a traveler is looking out for their own well-being, comfort, and safety. They are dealing with first impressions and quick decisions.
I have placed so much importance on weight, shape, and fitness level. I guess these observations make me think that is a little misguided. Don't get me wrong.....I am all for health and feeling fit. Of course that improves the quality of my life. I just think other things may be more important if what we are really trying to do is relate better to other people.