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Wednesday, April 17, 2013

I saw this on one of my teams. Considering the blog that I posted a few days ago, this brought me to tears. Please watch it and tell me what you think about it.

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SHIRAZSOLLY 4/18/2013 11:46AM

    Woah... the one thing that really stood out for me was that the person doing the sketches said the observers of others were critical of THINGS THAT HAPPENED to the person - moles, scars but were loving and gentle about FEATURES of the person's face that the person could not change.

In other words, people accept those features you are born with. We all think, because when we are children and we hear other children say "she has a big nose" (or whatever) that for the rest of our lives, everone is looking at our nose. But the reality is, probably almost no one is looking at our nose critically but us.

Like a lot of others, I have a pretty terrible self concept. I was thin for most of my life. But when I was thin, I found plenty to pick at myself about, because I had internalized a lot of negative things I heard as a child and I never got over believing that they were true. These negative thoughts increased when I gained weight. I know because I was thin before that being thin is not the answer to my happiness. And a lot of the women in the video were thin and they weren't happy with their looks, either. There was a woman with long, blonde hair and a great body who probably a bunch of people on Spark would have given an eye tooth to be and she thought she was ugly!

Can we all resolve to say something whenever we hear someone say something critical about a child's looks? We can't undo our pasts, but we can try to prevent someone else from feeling that way. And by stepping up and saying verbal abuse is wrong, we can exert some power that will help heal ourselves.

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MRS_TOAD 4/18/2013 8:43AM

    Very interesting. Definitely something to think about.

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    Something to think about.

It would be interesting to see the same experiment done with women who think they are beautiful.

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    Very Interesting, and something to think about. Thank you for sharing.


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TREATL 4/18/2013 12:32AM

    My Dad always told me how fat and how embarrassing I was for him. I shed some tears while watching this video--tears of sadness and anger, but also tears of healing and self-forgiveness. That is a very subtle and very powerful video. Thanks for sharing, Bonnie.

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L*I*T*A* 4/17/2013 9:14PM

    it is sad to see how we are our own worst enemies at times......

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NEWCHINELO 4/17/2013 4:10PM

    It's a pity,we are our own worst enemy!

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NEW-CAZ 4/17/2013 3:08PM

    SO sad Bonnie, we are often our own worst enemy!
It takes a lot to be nice to ourselves the way we are with others emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 4/17/2013 2:17PM

    I do not watch it much, but one of the things I love about the show What Not to Wear is that Stacy, Clinton, Ted and Carmindy all help their client focus on PERFECTIONS, not imperfections and flaws!

This video really made me think about how my own feelings about myself are palpable, others can feel it! so, **I** have to be in charge of the positive self-image train on this journey!

HUGS and htank you for sharing this.

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JULESMOM55 4/17/2013 1:31PM

    I watched this also and it brought me to tears. I was struck by how close the sketches from the strangers' descriptions looked to each person. It was also eye opening to hear the tone of each description. The women used negatives while the strangers used positives. It's true that we are our own worst critics - not only on how we look but also in other areas of our lives.

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CYALE76 4/17/2013 1:20PM

    How sad but true, we tend to be way to critical on ourselves and yet we find it so easy to see the beauty in others.

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CBRINKLEY401 4/17/2013 1:04PM

    It is so true. We focus on our flaws and imperfections, others are more likely to see us for who we are, just as we see them that way. We see their personalities shine through, the way they care about others, their friendliness. We all are more than just skin and hair and face shapes. We see our crows feet, others see a person who smiles and laughs alot.

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PICKIE98 4/17/2013 1:01PM

    I am crying too.. how sad.. Every one of those women was beautiful outwardly. How sad that what others told them made them WHO they are.. (My mom tells me I have a big jaw)

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