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Monday, April 15, 2013

i am married and the other part emoticon of my marriage ( i can't say half, cause he doesn't exert that much effort into the relationship). finally blew his top last night and basically told me i need to just get the he!! out of his house. i am taking it quite well. A girlfriend reminded me it is also my house and i could say to him that he should get out. The thought did cross my mind. I finally start losing weight and feeling good and motivated and then he drops this on me.

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1BEACHWALKER 4/23/2013 9:41PM

    Hopefully family and friends will help see you through this. Marriage isn't easy sometimes...I have been married for 38 years and know all to well. Communication is the key to a happy marriage. I hope you can work things out and find the best solution for yourself. Hang in there. Keep going-never give up on yourself! I saw you needed support from the Motivator team huddle and wanted to see how you were. emoticon

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MPETERSON2311 4/16/2013 3:31PM

    I hope things improve soon. I am thinking of you....

good luck

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KIMCOLLINGS 4/16/2013 11:42AM

    Maybe you can write him a letter. I know that works for me as I can get my thoughts down without saying the wrong thing that way. Trying to keep emotions out of it and trying to resolve the situation. Might be worth a shot since verbal communication has been difficult.

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BLUEMATTER 4/16/2013 8:38AM

    he finally talked to me today. of course it was on his way out the door to work. he asked a question, but wouldn't let me answer. finally after cutting in 3 different times, I was allowed to answer the question. i basically step by step/word by word repeated sunday morning where he hurt my feelings and tried explaining my position. after i was through telling my piece, he said he wished i hadnt answered at all; gave me a mean hard stare(to let me know he was angry); mumbled something under his breath and slammed the door ...


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GOLFGMA 4/16/2013 7:36AM

    I agree that all things have good times and bad times. A marriage has to be a two way give and take situation. My advice is to talk it out when both parties are calm and be honest in everything you say so that each can have understanding of the other's feelings.

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SPARKCHANTAL 4/16/2013 4:02AM

    don't know if it fits your case, but I've often heard that partners cannot deal with the successes of their 'better halves', it's a jealousy thing and they feel like they're losing control of the other.
is this a healthy relationship?

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SAMI199 4/16/2013 2:17AM

    emoticon I'm sorry to hear you are having to deal with all this-it's never easy...


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ARNETTELEE 4/15/2013 3:09PM

  How do you feel about the situation? You need to be more assertive! and you can send HIM packing!

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2HAMSDIET 4/15/2013 2:30PM

    emoticon Focus on what is best for you. Get good advice and life will go on. emoticon

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NKING1982 4/15/2013 1:23PM

    Sorry to hear that, I hope things get better for you emoticon

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HEALTHY-SPARK 4/15/2013 12:56PM

    So sorry to hear about this -- sometimes life just doesn't cooperate. Hang in there. Sending positive thoughts your way.

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KIMCOLLINGS 4/15/2013 12:47PM

    I sent you a goodie with a note. Thinking of you! emoticon

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