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HOW STUPID AM I ???


Monday, April 15, 2013

Well what a difference a couple of days makes in this rollercoaster ride we call loving an addict...in fact right now I hate him.....and hate myself more for getting my hopes up to think after i drove 3 hours he did NOT let me see my cats!!!!
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5FOOTRUNT 4/18/2013 8:59PM

    Sounds like he just wants to push your buttons and control you. I wouldn't beat yourself up over this, it's not your fault. emoticon

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SUGARSMOM2 4/17/2013 12:05PM

  you are not stupid ..I know you love your cats but it seems to me that He is not going to allow you to see them or pat them . can you get another cat that is not in his hands ? do not allow him to control you and with these acts he sure is in control . my granddaughter is into drugs also and it is a painful and hard to deal with these actions . I want her to be as she once was and that is not going to happen . i fear everytime the phone rings in the middle of the night that is news of her death or some other horrible sitiution ,you want to have it the way it was . sorry it will never be that way again .

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LYNMEINDERS 4/17/2013 6:57AM

    It is really sad how addicts work and how they affect others....
A book that may help you...
"Women who love too much by Robyn Norwood....could be worth a read for you

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PAPAMIKIE 4/17/2013 5:12AM

    I am sorry to say, we make choice. If we live life like someone else is in control, then someone else is in control. You are not stupid, but you are making choices. If you do not like the outcome of those choice make different choices. I am sorry if this sounds harsh. I have read your post for many months and you seem to repeat the same pattern, to make the same choices.

Why not make different choices???

thoughts and prayers

Popie

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JIBBIE49 4/16/2013 12:03PM

    As Dr. Phil says "Everything we do is to get a Pay-Off." An addict is a SELFISH person and they don't know what it is to love others. We just have to use TOUGH LOVE and love ourselves. As the Buddha wisely said "No one can change YOU but YOURSELF."

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TXMEMAW6 4/16/2013 10:44AM

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IKACEY 4/16/2013 3:19AM

    I agree with HAWTGRANNY2014 and SCHUBERTR1 You are not stupid, you are just having trouble getting closure on life with this guy. And he is angry that you have chosen not to let him make you suffer more so he is getting at you yet again by not letting you see the cats. He is not capable of changing his ways and you need to take a look at why you hang on to the relationship. Do you really want to go on trying to see the cats or whatever and letting him hurt you again and again? Do you think that there is something wrong with you that you deserve this treatment? If not then you need to choose to cut off all ties with him, even if it means going thru the additional hearbreak of losing your cats.
It takes a strong person to deal with an addict, and an even stronger one to walk away when its time. emoticon
IKacey, co-leader of the Chair Exercise Team

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GRANDMABABA 4/15/2013 10:31PM

    I am so sorry you continue to be hurt in this way

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JUDITH316 4/15/2013 10:01PM

    I'm so sorry this happened, I want you to know my prayers are with you..Sending you BIG HUGS.. emoticon emoticon

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MAMAOFTHEBRIDE 4/15/2013 8:35PM

   
I'm so sorry. You're not stupid, you just expected the best, and some people are just not capable of that.

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SLAVEBLUERAVEN 4/15/2013 8:32PM

    There is nothing stupid about being hopeful. It sucks your forced to deal with this!

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COSMIC_ENERGY 4/15/2013 8:14PM

    I'm so sorry that happened to you.

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ENVY45 4/15/2013 8:14PM

    You are not stupid at all. There is beauty in those who love the most difficult. Keep your head up and pray. emoticon

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JANETTEB553 4/15/2013 7:16PM

    Time to reevaluate and make firm decisions... Easy to say :) Hard to do....
Best Wishes... Remember Leopards cannot change their spots... emoticon

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MELMOMOF4 4/15/2013 6:50PM

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SCHUBERTR1 4/15/2013 6:45PM

  nope....you're not stupid. your an optimist who wants to believe that people are good and are capable of changing who they really are. unfortunately he will never change. You have two options 1) continue to believe in him and hurt yourself in the process or 2) believe in yourself and sever all ties to him once and for all

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SCHUBERTR1 4/15/2013 6:45PM

  nope....you're not stupid. your an optimist who wants to believe that people are good and are capable of changing who they really are. unfortunately he will never change. You have two options 1) continue to believe in him and hurt yourself in the process or 2) believe in yourself and sever all ties to him once and for all

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BEEJAY49 4/15/2013 5:53PM

    So sorry. HUGS!

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MJ7DM33 4/15/2013 5:14PM

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PEZMOM1 4/15/2013 4:54PM

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SALLYKWITT 4/15/2013 2:54PM

    That must be tough. Sorry that you couldn't see the cats.

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SPARKFRAN514 4/15/2013 1:59PM

    emoticon emoticon that you can move on know how hard that is these people don't for any one but them selves and some times not even them selves most days. I am you drove so long and couldn't see your cats.its hard to just move on. after short he may come around praying for you it may seem hard but since you don't want contact with him let him have the cats and you get your self a fresh start and new kitty
so many kitties need a loving new home. emoticon

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HAWTGRANNY2014 4/15/2013 12:58PM

    Loving an addict takes a very strong person. Are you having issues with yourself that makes you hang on to this relationship? Do you have some issues with self respect?
I know I don't know you but have you thought this out?

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CRAFTINWIFE 4/15/2013 12:04PM

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SWIMLOVER 4/15/2013 8:57AM

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RASPBERRY56 4/15/2013 8:52AM

    That is just - plain - WRONG that anyone should deny you access to anything you cherish!

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LJCANNON 4/15/2013 8:21AM

    emoticon It takes a Very Strong person to Love an Addict. Remember to take care of YOU.

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BUSYGRANNY5 4/15/2013 8:00AM

    You're not stupid...just trying... sorry it turned out they way it did... keep on keeping on!
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NELLJONES 4/15/2013 7:59AM

    Life with an addict is dreadful.

https://www.youtube.com/wat
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I don't know if you remember this public service video. It's about heroin but it applies to any addictive substance. Everyone around the addict suffers.

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-WRKNG2ABTTRME- 4/15/2013 7:33AM

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TAGSUIT2 4/15/2013 7:26AM

    That was just being mean, mean, mean. emoticon

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GOLFGMA 4/15/2013 7:23AM

    emoticon that you are having these problems. Pray and seek strength in Him.
The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. Psalm 9:9

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