I've realized that I suck at resisting temptation. Sounds like an easy problem to fix, right? Just have willpower, be strong, suck it up!
Yeah, ok, except that I live in Italy, where food is a social event. And people show their love by cooking. Oh, you are feeling down? Here, I'll bake you a tart. Oh, you need to talk about a problem? Ok, come over for dinner and we'll talk.
I am a social person, so what am I to do? My family went out to eat twice in four days this past week. First, because a cousin was alone (wife being in the hospital) and of course people cannot be allowed to eat alone. How odd, how unsociable.
Second time, because someone was coming into town that my husband hadn't seen for a while. I should point out this person lives about 30 minutes away, but his coming into town is still an 'event'. Italians will jump at ANY excuse to go out and eat with friends.
And then last night my in-laws wanted to go downtown to get a pizza because the owner of the pizzeria had baked an apple cake for my father-in-law because he's been sick. My father-in-law has diabetes, and people are baking him sweets so he'll feel better? That's a whole other discussion.
Finally I put my foot down last night and said no, I’m not going with you. They ended up changing their minds, but I still was asked to go down and pick up the cake and bring it back. So I brought back the apple cake and it was delicious. Groan.......
It's not just eating out that's the problem. They are all chefs here, and when my husband cooks there are truffles (the fungus kind), italian cheeses, creamy risottos..........etc. It's like a gourmet italian dinner from a fine restaurant EVERY NIGHT! Writing this, I realize some of you will want to shoot me for complaining about this. Third world problem, eh? I should point out that fine ingredients are cheap here, so are restaurants. Food in general is much less expensive than in the states.
I seriously don't know how to proceed. My in-laws laugh when I prepare a lentil/onion dish or a salad for dinner . These are side dishes to them. Not main courses. We always eat with them because we believe in the value of eating dinner together as a family. Even with my complaining, I don't want to change that. It's good for my son too. Also because my mother-in-law needs help feeding and putting to bed her mother, who is an invalid and also senile.
In true italian fashion my in-laws and my husband’s grandmother live in the apartment beneath us, which makes us a family of six instead of three. Not counting the cousins who live next door. This blog would be too long if I tried to explain every relation we have in town. You’ve seen ‘My Big Fat Greek Wedding’, right? Yeah, that.
If everyone in this house agreed to eat lower-calorie meals, or just eat less, my life would be so much easier. So would theirs. My Father-in-law has diabetes, my Mother-in-law is 40 pounds overweight, so is my husband. My son and I are active, and we are the healthiest in the house, but we both have a belly and he eats a LOT of sugar. Italian kids all do. It's insane and I fight it all the time.
I have made progress since joining SP. I'm more active, eating healthier foods, less sugar, etc. I feel better, but I haven't lost weight and kept it off. I need to figure out a plan of action. If I don't, I'll just continue on like this and wind up sick, overweight and on a ton of medications like everyone else here. It's got to be something I can stick with long term.
Or, I need to develop my willpower abilities, and wield them like a super power.