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Friday, April 12, 2013

First of all, thank you so much to all those who expressed support, commiserated, etc. on my last blog. It means a lot to know that there are other people out there battling with these demons, and I really do believe that we are all in various stages of winning this fight!

So just in terms of updates, because there were too many to stick in one status...

emoticon I haven't binged in over a week, since I told my husband about it. That's a bit miraculous considering Monday was his birthday and we've had ridiculously yummy treats around (homemade monkey bread, brownies, 2 kinds of homemade ice creams). Basically, I just acknowledged that I would be eating those things each day and worked them into my meals. Why bother pretending I'd be able to resist when I KNOW I wouldn't be able to? I didn't WANT to expend all my energy trying not to binge on something instead of just allowing myself to have some. On the first day of monkeybread (sounds like a bizarre holiday song!), I budgeted 900 calories for it. I ate my fill, and I only wanted smallish servings for the rest of the time it was around. Duh, I know, but these are big steps for me!

There was one time when I felt slightly bingey. I was home alone, and I was in the kitchen making a marinade. (Home alone + in the kitchen = huge binge triggers!) All of a sudden, I couldn't stop thinking about the birthday treats I had planned to eat after dinner and I decided to just eat them right then. I'd say I was about 85% in control... I didn't eat unplanned calories or let the treats lead me to gorging on whatever I could find, but I did have that slightly numbed out brain feeling. Baby steps.

Anyway, I should note that all of those treats are now gone, thanks in large part to my husband. They were good, but it's a lot easier to plan a healthy day's meals without having to factor in ice cream. And brownies.

emoticon I made an appointment with a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders! (She actually said, "Oh, binge eating disorder is my favorite!" when I told her what the problem was... LOL) I see her on Tuesday night, and I am both excited and nervous. I'm nervous that she'll tell me this is all in my head and I just need to have some willpower or work harder. (This is highly unlikely.) I'm also nervous that she will tell me to stop tracking, because I know how quickly I fall off the wagon when I do that. Honestly, at this point I've done so much self-evaluation and exploration of this issue that I feel like I know exactly WHY I binge. I'm more interested in her ideas for how to stop. We'll see how it goes... I'm mostly really excited.

emoticon I'm going to start doing a work exchange at a local fitness studio! That means I'll spend a couple hours there on Monday nights to check in some classes/man the desk, and I get 2 free Zumba classes per week in exchange. I am SO excited!! I really love Zumba when it's taught well, and I happen to know that this teacher is both fun and a HUGE @ss-kicker. Looking forward to getting that going!

emoticon I finally decided to face the music, and I took a picture of myself in my "skinny" jeans from 2011 (when I was 10 lbs lighter). My husband seemed to think I was doing it to torture myself, but actually, I'm trying to find ways to measure progress that aren't based on the scale. The irrational perfectionist part of my brain goes haywire when the scale doesn't reflect my efforts after more than a couple days, so I'm anticipating the psychologist telling me to back off of it for awhile. Anyway, I won't be posting this picture on Spark anytime soon, but maybe I'll reconsider once those jeans start fitting again!


As always, that ended up being a way longer update than anticipated, but it turns out that I had a lot to say! Sometimes I feel like I exhaust my husband, my mother, and the couple friends I have who are close enough to talk about this stuff with. They'd never say that I do (well, my husband does sometimes), but I don't want to inundate them with this stuff every 5 minutes. It really helps me feel calm and in control to have a safe place to vent my thoughts, so thanks for bearing with me.

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 4/18/2013 3:23PM

    Glad that all is going well and the Zumba classes sound like fun

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CHANGINGSAM 4/16/2013 10:44AM

    Way to go on the victories!

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MOONDANCE129 4/15/2013 9:04AM

  For the record, your mother is not sick of hearing about your self-discovery and actions to recover from binge eating. As you well know, I have binge issues myself so whatever you learn is helping me too! So proud of you for taking action to beat this thing!

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MOONDANCE129 4/15/2013 9:04AM

  For the record, your mother is not sick of hearing about your self-discovery and actions to recover from binge eating. As you well know, I have binge issues myself so whatever you learn is helping me too! So proud of you for taking action to beat this thing!

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HEALTHYNEWPAIGE 4/14/2013 2:38AM

    Glad you are doing well and working to stay well including making an appointment with the psychologist. That's awesome that you could do a work exchange for Zumba classes. emoticon

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FITGRL124 4/13/2013 7:08PM

    Best of luck at the therapist!

And - kudos to you for working in the foods and not having a huge binge. I think that is definitely progress. Also, maybe telling the hubs helped.

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SINGAWOLFSONG 4/13/2013 5:14PM

    I'd like to see a therapist myself but they're so expensive! I can't justify it just yet :/ But good luck!!!

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PRETTYPITHY 4/13/2013 11:00AM

    Sounds like you're on the right track! Good luck with the therapist!

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FIT_FOR_LIFE85 4/13/2013 10:16AM

    I meant to comment on your previous blog but now I see that I didn't! Anyway, I'm glad your seeking help. I agree that binge eating is more than just "suck it up and work harder"). I have been battling with eating disorders since I was 15 and still have not found what works for me. I'm glad things are going better for you and I can't wait to hear how your psychotherapy sessions go! emoticon

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MANDELOVICH 4/13/2013 10:13AM

    Congratulations first of all - a whole week binge free is fantastic, and with a birthday in there too is amazing!
Secondly, what excellent steps you have taken to help yourself - the appt with the psychologist, the volunteering for free Zumba, etc. Bravo!!
Finally, how great that you use spark as another form of support. Great idea!

I'm rooting for you and I'm on the same path! Today is my 5th day binge free and I feel awesome about it!

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STRIVING4HEALTH 4/13/2013 12:27AM

    I hope you keep updating us with how you are doing!! I am so glad you had a good week. emoticon

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