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Try the new med or find a new doctor?!

Friday, April 12, 2013

After a huge weight gain between Dec and Feb, which I attribute to a medicine I took myself off of last month (and my dr finally admits *could* be *PART of my gain), I am near the point of changing drs. Talking to him today, he said I had gained 1lb in the past month, so obviously it must not be the medicine (1lb in a month, when on it I gained 16 pounds in one month and at least 13 in another, and this week is TOM). He talked about how people say "I'm not eating anything" to which he commented that if they weren't eating anything, they would be losing weight. I said, actually, they would gain due to shutting down their metabolism if they truly weren't eating anything.

I talked about the huge changes I've made, cutting out processed foods, eating mostly fruits, veggies, lean meats, and he says, yeah, my mom used to track calories and all her food, then write it down and eat a cookie. He also commented on how people would go work out, then feel entitled and like they'd earned it, so they go eat a big 600 calorie muffin or the like. When I said I wasn't doing that, he said he couldn't put a camera on my shoulder to see everything eaten and pinpoint where the problem lay. He commented that lots of people tend to try to claim thyroid issues when they gain or can't lose weight(I asked if he could check that) and that, because my tsh level was normal last year, it would be highly unlikely that it had gone that far out of wack so there was no point in checking T3, T4, etc. He said it just boiled down to calories in/calories out.

He also wants me to go back on the antidepressants, though a different one. When I commented that I'd read of horror stories of coming off of this one, he said that it wasn't difficult to stop. Then, as he continued talking about it, he asked me what I thought and I said I didn't know. He says, "Well, they tell us to include the patient in discussions, but if you don't know..." So, he is going to continuously belittle my concerns and comments (not the first time, he laughed at me when I came to him with a list of concerns several years ago) then berate me for not stating my opinions?!

The last 10 minutes I was talking with him, he repeatedly checked his watch. Yes, it was a 4:30 appointment and he probably didn't anticipate me bringing up so many issues (even though last time, we said we would discuss the thyroid concerns this time).

Thinking it is time to check out a new dr. I do feel like I need something, though, so I am not sure if I should start the meds until I can get something arranged or not. Plan to talk with a friend Sunday and dh tonight and try to figure things out. Any suggestions would be appreciated!
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    Yes, it is time to find a new doctor for sure!!!! In fact, I would suggest finding a woman doctor, too. I know there are many fine men doctors out there, but I believe you would be more comfortable discussing things with a woman, who has probably experienced some of the same issues you are going through.

    Good luck, and hope all goes well.

    Take Care,
    1769 days ago
    New doctor time indeed!!!

    Besides, sometimes a new person's outlook from the start is more helpful than the one prior. Starting fresh with reccommendations from family and friends is important too. I just did that this past I get where you are headed....GOOD LUCK!!
    1769 days ago
    I'd absolutely suggest you find a new doctor. It's one thing for a doctor to have a professional opinions that's different from what you think, but it's completely unprofessional to belittle your concerns and treat you so dismissively. Yes, I'm sure there are people with weight problems who aren't honest about what they eat and their habits, but being so callous about it is uncaring, not to mention unhelpful. You're not the first person to put on a lot of weight in a short period of time because of a medication and I think that warrants further exploration. Hopefully your new doctor will be better versed in nutrition and weight management issues and can help point you in a better direction.
    1769 days ago
    I'd go with find a new doctor. You need to have a doctor who will listen and address your concerns.
    1770 days ago
    Please find a new Dr. This one doesn't seem to understand what your needs are. There are many great Dr.s out there and I am sure you will be able to find one who is more attentive to your needs.
    1770 days ago
    I vote that it is time for a new doctor. I know that doctors here a lot of crap from people but I will not tolerate one who is condescending to me or who doesn't believe that I know my body. Good luck!
    1771 days ago
    My experience sounds a lot like yours. 7 years ago I was given hormones which caused me to gain 9 pounds in about 2 weeks. The doctor blamed me for having eaten too much and not exercised enough...when I hadn't changed a thing. Since then, I've been fighting to get it off, with no success. I've had doctors tell me "just stop drinking one coke a day and you'll lose 10 pounds in no time" when I don't even drink coke. This kind of thing continued until last Nov when my glucose levels and cholesterol levels were a bit high. The doctor I was seeing said "bad diet, here's medicine".

    Then I saw my pain specialist and she said "not bad diet, I know what you eat, let's check it out more'. She sent me to an endocrinologist who wanted to find out more, sent me for an ultrasound of my thyroid and lo and behold, we discovered a nodule! I was in for a biopsy the next day and I have started thyroid medication, not because levels are off (they are) but because of the nodule! And guess what? I've also lost 2 pounds in two weeks.

    Bottom line, if you are certain something else is going on, change doctors until you know you are getting the right answer. If I had been content to stick with the first doctor, I would still have an undetected untreated nodule! You must be your own advocate because most doctors don't have the time to do so!
    1771 days ago
    Please,do take care of yourself!
    1771 days ago
    I would definitely change doctors.
    I needed to see a new doctor after moving to another State. After my first cholesterol check, he told me I needed to change my diet and start working out. Little did he know, that I work out, or at least walk, almost every day. I also offered to bring my food journal in, so he could tell me what not to eat. He smiled and told me "Just keep up the good work." He knows, now, that I am a very active 72-year old, and keeps on telling me that he wants to keep me healthy and fit, so that I can play golf and swim until I die.
    These last three years, HE had to call me to set up an appointment, because he never ever sees me. His first question is always "So why are we here, today?" And I answer, "you tell me, because your office called me and made the appointment."
    Don't waste any time. I am sure you have some friends who can recommend a more passionate physician than your present one.
    1771 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/12/2013 11:32:20 PM
    I would find a new dr. and if you can wait I wouldn't start on the new med. If you can't, go ahead and start it, but get an appt. as soon as you can.
    1771 days ago
  • DARLY55
    What a jerk! I'd get rid of him in a heartbeat. Hang in there!
    1771 days ago
  • 4_MY_LIFE
    I would change doctors. That is what I did and I'm thankful that I did. My new one actual listens to what I have to say. Good Luck!
    1771 days ago
  • TLG71567
    It definitely sounds like you need a new doctor. There is no reason for anyone to treat you like that. I went through that with a dentist and it is not only unprofessional, it is dangerous. Doctors should listen to us. We know our bodies better than anyone else. Your concerns are well founded. Good luck in your new search.
    1771 days ago
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