Friday, April 12, 2013
I have been quite well since baby was born. DH will be reading his New Father books, and will occasionally ask if I feel depressed. I always ask him do I look it to you? He always says motherhood suits you. I have been happy being a mom, I love being a mom to my pretty little girl, and I love my DH. But I am really starting to dislike his mom. I think I have reached my breaking point. Every visit, she has something to say. She constantly uses babies hands as a thermometer and then proceeds to tell me to wrap up my daughter, I keep telling her that is a terrible way to measure her temperature and that numerous resources say to use the back of the neck as a better gauge. On a few occasions she has made some digs about my weight. Saying that I am bigger than her. When I tried to tell her baby was fine because I felt warm so the sleeper was keeping her warm enough, she came back and said it was because I have more insulation. She has on more than one occasion told me to eat more, when I ate to my satisfaction at family meals, then she proceeded to use the baby as an excuse. "you need to feed the baby" She has made comments that baby isn't chubby enough and that I should supplement with pablum a solid food because that is what she did with DH. Now I love my DH he is a wonderful man, but he isn't exactly in the healthy weight range, and I think he has been like this his whole life. Hmmm wonder why? because his mom probably over fed him. I explained to her that now babies shouldn't be getting any kind of solid food until 6 months and pablum is a solid food. I also told her that rice cereal is most likely not going to be her first food.
I have been trying to hint to DH that maybe his parents can come visit when he is home. They always visit when he is at work, and I think his mom reserves all these comments for just lucky ol me. I think I have been rather strong and really trying not to let this bother me. Thanks to my sister for letting me vent to her about it. But I think I have reached my breaking point yesterday. Again she made the comment that I should be supplementing with formula, again I told her the dr's are happy with babies weight gain and that I am feeding her enough to continue growing and breastmilk is really the best. Then she told me that I should stop trying to lose weight and to think of the baby. She basically told me that I am being selfish for wanting to lose weight. She even continued on saying that is why they want to bring me lunch, and mentioned that I should eat KFC because I can't eat hamburgers. FFS! She like my mom thinks that gluten is in just bread.
I am happy that my little girl isn't chubby, she is just the right size for a baby in my eyes. I would rather not have my child have to battle childhood obesity and trust me I told her that. But I am really upset that she basically called me selfish. She makes it sound like I am not being a good mother, with the clothes I put on my child, not feeding her enough, and not keeping her warm enough. I do find myself irritable after her visits, and today especially. I have been crying most of the morning. This woman finds fault with everything I do and thinks that this baby is hers to raise just because she never had a girl.