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I really hate drainers

Friday, April 12, 2013

I've been starting to put it out there, that I'm thinking of going back to school. I think I've found the program that will work for me and my situation and get me where I want to be.

I still haven't decided 100%. I have two options to get there. I just need to decide which one to take.

Meanwhile, I've got a "friend" on facebook. She's one of those people who knows everything and has to let you know that on a regular basis. Well, lets just say she's chiming in with her two bits about all of this. Why am I not doing this at a Canadian University? Have I even looked? How am I eligible for the program? on and on and on.

I'm sick to death of people who assume I'm too ignorant to do any research.

I think it's more about possibly being sick of having non-supportive people in my life. Don't get me wrong. I don't mind the devils advocate that is making sure I'm thinking of different possibilities. But they way she goes about it.

In the meantime, I need to put this negativity behind me and keep moving forward. I need to make a final decision on which program I'm going to take, and where. Hubby is leaning towards UND, mainly because I can do it all through the distance education program. With the exception of two week I'll have to go to the school and study, I can do the entire 3 years from home. On my own schedule.

UofR will take me about 3 years also, but to only get my BSW. I can go to work with that, and work my way towards a MSW. It will take me longer. I will also have to attend scheduled classes, and do some driving. I'm pretty sure I will have to drive to and from Regina in my last year. I will look into when and where the classes are offered before I say this is definite, but I'm betting chances are pretty high that I'll have to drive in for the highly specialized classes to the university. I don't mind driving, but 2 hours each way, at least twice a week (more likely 3x/week). That could be too much for me. I'll not be able to hold a regular job during that time either. I can't expect Hubby to pay all the bills, plus my gas for that.

I just needed to vent. This "friend" has been like this for years. I really hate to do it, but I'm considering removing her from my friend list. I'm just getting so tired of the constant feeling like I have to defend myself and my decisions all the time. Anyhow, I've got a full day ahead of me. Time to get it started.

******UPDATE*************
Okay, that's it. I finally lost my temper with her. Basically told her I guess she must know more than the academic advisors - from multiple colleges/universities and the people from the licensing/registration bodies I've been talking to. Wow. What is wrong with people?

Sorry. I guess this has really gotten under my skin. Guess I need to get rid of this nonsense in my life.
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CHRISTINASP 4/12/2013 5:00PM

    Hmm. It can be quite hard to deal with situations like this!

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SUSANSERENE 4/12/2013 2:41PM

    Between your hubby and you you'll get all the logistics worked out, I just know it. Good for you, too, on going back to school!

When we're on a journey of self-care and getting fit the one thing that does NOT fit into this venture is NEGATIVITY. I focus as much as possible on POSITIVITY, literally eliminating as many negative things, people and thoughts as possible. Either HIDE your "friend" on FB or unfriend her. I've done it and will continue to; some people don't know any other way to be, I understand that, and it's just a part of life that we need to part ways with them. You'll feel better and learn to let any of the negativity just slide on by. YOU DON'T need that roadblock!!

Good luck and take good care of YOU! You deserve all good things and you get to choose what those are! :))

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KNITCAT1 4/12/2013 1:40PM

    Good luck to you in your search for the right combinations... It's so very hard to do, and people are always, always, always going to see what doesn't work, why didn't you do it this way, etc. If you and your other half agree, then poo to the rest. Much power and happiness to you on your journey!

Cat

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DAZZEEDOO 4/12/2013 12:46PM

    Good for You, maybe she'll back off.
Good Luck in research. It sounds like you really want to do this.
A very positive thing.
Have a great weekend!
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FIT4MEIN2013 4/12/2013 10:57AM

    Some people ALWAYS look at the downside of everything. Don't let it discourage you from your goals. emoticon

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CIRANDELLA 4/12/2013 10:24AM

    Bah! I'm with you, oh, about 150% on these compulsive, toxic advice-givers. They're full of advice and a whole lot more, if you get my drift! I kinda like your plan for the U of R route, even if it does take longer...for some reason, it sounds like a solid plan to me.

I'm glad you're going back to school! Don't listen to the yammering naysayers - YOU'RE in the driver's seat! emoticon

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BANDMOM2012 4/12/2013 10:18AM

    Wow, I am glad you were so assertive. It's cool to vent, it makes for a happier day rather than stewing on all that negativity.

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EL-E-E 4/12/2013 10:17AM

    We ALL have people like that in our lives!! Mine lives next door!

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Best to just smile and keep moving forward....

I feel ya!

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FIREFLY413 4/12/2013 9:42AM

    O. M. G. I toooootally understand what you mean about drainers! And the know-it-all people. Good job for being assertive with her!

Going back to school is exciting! No matter which option you choose, you're taking a major positive step. Cool!

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