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Gotta vent it out...

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Begin Vent:

I thought things were getting better, even tho the situation hadn't changed, I was handling it better... well the situation has changed. I feel I am being manipulated. Apparently someone doesn't like me and has used their position of authority to maniupulate me into doing something the way they want something done instead of coming to talk to me personally about it.

Talk about being stuck where one isn't liked, appreciated or wanted.

I found this that describes a maniuplator... and it describes this person to a T!

"Some people in this world are kings and queens of the art of getting their own way. Itís amazing how some people are able to achieve their whims through the use of persuasion or deception. The true masters are the ones who steer other people and events when they lack power or responsibility. These greedy folks are also the agents of chaos in groups and organizations, pursuing selfish hidden agendas for their own gain."

I don't know anyone who particularly likes this person, yet being in the authority position that they are in it seems they can get anyone to kiss their butt.

Frustrated, hurt and angered doesn't even begin to describe the way I'm feeling. I'm not wanting a pity party... I'm just so aggravated at how somepeople can be so manipulative!!
Do you know anyone like that?

Thanks to anyone who actually reads my little rant here. It feels better to get it out.

End Vent.

Now I need to go have a good scream and cry.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
HEALTHYSLIM2 4/18/2013 3:40AM

    TOTALLY know what you are talking about here. These people do crop up everywhere... unfortunately, I've found, especially in volunteer work!!
Hang in there - this too shall pass.
Continue to do the right thing and don't let it get the better of you. The more it bothers you, the more this person "wins" in the power struggle.


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LINDAMARIEZ1 4/17/2013 7:22AM

    don't let them govern how you feel after the act! It is giving them too much power that they don't deserver! I know it is hard but move on! You are a better person!
linda emoticon

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MRS_CIESIOLKA 4/16/2013 11:00AM

    Try though it maybe hard to kill them with kindness. Act if you can, that what they do doesn't bother you, but at the same time document everything they do to you that is unfair or prejudice, and when you get enough go talk to a superior. Don't quit your job because of them. Because then they win.

If only I could have practice what I preach along time ago!!

Good luck girl!!!

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SCHNOOTIE 4/13/2013 8:12AM

    Hugs to you. Don't despair. Those people are everywhere. We have them too. I completely get how infuriating it is to be around them or even be their target. Just know that a lot of us are dealing with the same type of human every day. It does get a little easier just knowing that you're not alone.

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ASILLA 4/13/2013 6:55AM

    Hang in there, although I haven't know you long I can tell you are a tough woman.
Yes, I too have known people like that, my mother and her sister, I won't blog on a blog but it was hellish & as a kid no way out.

emoticon time is on your side you know

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TERESA159 4/12/2013 5:49PM

    I feel for ya! I ended up quitting my well-paying corporate job a few years ago just because I found I could no longer abide by things that were happening because of one or two people. Now I am freelance and could not be happier. Not an option for you? Then just hang in there, situations do change, people move on, this won't last forever. and I do like the idea of the punching bag!

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PHEBESS 4/12/2013 5:28AM

    This is when an old-fashioned punching bag, or kick boxing, is great for getting the anger and frustration out!

Hugs to you, and things will improve.

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ISLANDNESTER 4/12/2013 2:09AM

  I don't know if this will help at all,but my husband gave me some advice long ago when I was struggling through an injustice." Live your life so that when others hear the lie they will not believe it." Best of care to you.:)

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BESTMEPOSSIBLE 4/12/2013 12:21AM

    I used to work for a company that valued people like that, because the owner was like that.

Now I have had a mid life career change, I am an RN.

The company I worked for is currently circling the bowl - hm, wonder why?!

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MCJULIEO 4/11/2013 11:36PM

    Hang in there, you know we're rooting for you!

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CATHYGETSFIT 4/11/2013 10:56PM

    Ugh! Unfortunately, there are people like that in this world! They really know how to make your life miserable at times! This is a good place to vent though. Hopefully someday karma will come around to bite them in the a$$. emoticon

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JUSTME29 4/11/2013 10:33PM

    I definitely do. The problem is that I genuinely like the person who is the worst offender, and to realize just how manipulative she is just really hurt. Fortunately there are very few of those people in my life so I count myself as fortunate. Some days though the few seem to outnumber the many good people in my life.

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BIGPAWSUP 4/11/2013 10:27PM

    Scream and cry all you need to. May I recommend a punching bag - great cardio while getting out some frustrations.

I've got the been there done that shirt. Soo sorry you have earned one too.

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ALISHAB3 4/11/2013 10:24PM

    I do know someone like that. Gah. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

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PRUPLEBEAR 4/11/2013 9:29PM

    Hugs! I do know people like that. I like to remind my self what goes around comes around.

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MIDNIGHTER1 4/11/2013 9:24PM

    OMG,that sounds like my former boss. He was a tyrant who ran the department with an iron fist. We clashed on many occassiions and everyone hated or hates him. We call him "Little Hitler" He takes credit for everything and is a control freak. If you did do something without his knowledge he would freak out,but if it worked he would reprimand you,claim credit and tell you he is watching you.
I do not miss him. I wish it was diferent for you.Sharing and teamwork makes a happier department and work situation. I do love my new job.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 4/11/2013 8:41PM

    The world is made up of many types of people. Unfortunately that means that there are a lot of people with less than honorable intentions. If we never had to face these types of people, would we be as grateful for the good people in our lives? You're not alone in dealing with people like this, so do what you can to get through it and to correct it.

Have you considered documenting the issues then taking that to whomever is above that person? Everyone answers to someone in some fashion. You could also consider just leaving the situation in whatever way is possible. Sometimes we can battle against these types of people, but often it's easier to just move on.

Whatever you choose to do, know that you're a good person who is doing your best. They can try to screw up things in your life, but don't let them alter who you are in your heart.

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STARPESCADO 4/11/2013 7:43PM

    Sending you positive, protective thoughts - may this person leave you alone and may you be happy and resolved of this issue...

Sometimes ppl just suck! emoticon

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DOGSTARDADDY 4/11/2013 6:18PM

    Keep the faith. Sorry to hear things are a struggle. Hopefully it will pass.

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MRSBUCKEYE 4/11/2013 4:47PM

    Great place to vent .. and hope it gets better for you. Karma ... what comes around goes around emoticon


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