Thursday, April 11, 2013
Okay, I'm exaggerating A LITTLE. No, it's not because my husband has lost his attraction to me. My marriage is not "in trouble" really. Not the way people mean when they say their marriage is "in trouble."
But working out is still going to save us - because he's driving me up a d@mn wall! He has anxiety issues, totally undiagnosed and undealt with, so the only way he knows to "deal" with them is to obsess about things, ask me a million questions, then either refuse to believe the answers or accuse me of not knowing what I'm talking about.
Then he stays awake all night obsessing over nothing and pounces on me at 6am to pronounce his doom and gloom predictions for our life that he has been obsessing about all night.
Which makes me go AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
So this morning, I was just like "... okay, well, I'm going swimming." I was frustrated and annoyed and mad, but swimming made me feel better AND gave me quiet time to process everything. Plus gave him time to do normal things like get up and shower, and that plus daylight helped him shake the All Night Insanity thing that he does, and time to calm down. I can't make him calm down, I should know this by now, so the best thing I can do is go away and make myself feel better.
So we had a normal, non-fight conversation when I got back, and that is way better than both of us getting more and more stressed and not communicating.
As long as I keep working out we might actually be able to buy a house without killing each other. hahahaha.
Update: Thank you to those who left nice comments. I appreciate it. I work hard at thoughtful, non-confrontational communication in my relationship. Exercise helps me also be calmer and have better moods. That is all I was trying to say, in what I thought was an amusing sort of way.
Those who left (deleted!) comments to the effect that my marriage needs help or I should take a good look at myself? Your comments are not welcome. Obviously you did not read the bottom of the post where I say we had a good talk, or maybe your reading comprehension is not so great. Either way, you don't know me. On your merry way.