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Thursday, April 11, 2013

Because I really need to just whine and complain for a bit, and no one around here seems to want to hear it :)

I posted something on Facebook today that basically said American Omnivores have a 50% chance of dying of a heart attack, and Vegans have a 4% chance.

That's kind of an alarming statistic to me. And the response from two of my closer friends was "everything in moderation". AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH

I hate that phrase!! My husband says it all the time.

What does that even mean?????

When I think about the pounds and pounds of butter I was buying, the pounds of chicken and beef, the pounds and pounds of cheese, the 25 pound bags of sugar AND 25 pound bags of brown sugar...that wasn't moderation. I really thought I was feeding my family a fairly healhy diet (no artificial flavor, color or preservatives!) But we were WAY overboard on calories, fat, and sugar - even based on USDA recommendations. We were also WAY low on vegetables. Like, I was cooking a veggie maybe once a week, or tossing some corn into a stew.

MUCH of my frustration actually has nothing to do with today's Facebook post, or my transition to ETL, It really has to do with candy and sweets. I have been trying for the past 4 years to protect my kids from artificial flavor and color, which dramatically affects their brain. It is a mind-altering drug to them (and to me). But they are offered candy EVERY DAY. There is a school party with brownies or cupcakes every single week. On the bus a kid passes them some goldfish or a granola bar. I even had to double check my salad dressing from Trader Joe's to guarantee nothing poisonous snuck thru the radar.

And I'm SOOO tired of it.

If it was cocaine, or cigarettes, or invites to the drunken party that my kids were having to politely turn away every single day from friends, teachers,, bus drivers, church leaders, and grandparents ---- what would I do?? I'm pretty sure I'd go completely bonkers and start a nationwide campaign ...or the opposite - I'd start a commune and never let the kids out of the house.

But the attitude I get from so many people is .....everything in moderation! It's just a tiny Snickers bar. It's just a cupcake. It's just a juice box. It's's's just. This is NOT moderation!! This is several times a day, several days a week, every single week of the year.

And I'm so tired of fighting against the swollen current of junkfood that my family is swimming in. And so I've become entirely irrational about dumb things like ....heart attacks.
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    Thank you all for your encouragement! I'm still in a bit of a funk about it, but last night my kids came home and wolfed down a huge Caesar salad, then inhaled some green bean "fries", went to church, then came home and cut up bunches of apples for an evening snack. So....there is alot of progress on the homefront. Trying to remember that these are true victories, and that I have so much to be thankful for! ...including all of you! Thank you!
    1806 days ago
    I hear you. I don't have children but I can imagine it must be SO tough to deal with all this, trying to let them grow up with healthy food and healthy eating habits. As an adult we can TRY to ignore all the advertisements and TRY to train ourselves to say no to all the 'treats'.
    With kids it must be quite hard.

    1806 days ago
  • DS9KIE
    oh boy I'm in such agreement with you, please feel free to rant...tell the school, daycare don't want sick, fat, diseased kids. The more everyone rants on this subject the better.

    Well hear is the thing, everyone is gonna give out candy to your kids in Moderation everyday so what you have to do is teach your kids how bad it is for their bodies...over and over and over and stories, draw pictures write, color, paint all about how eating fruits and veggie are great for your body and junk is not...when you start this young they will get the message.

    I know this works cause I see it with teaching kids and if I the teacher can get to a kid then can you the parent. I can tell you many stories of kids who are listening if you want (but I have no time right now)

    Oh those dreaded parties at school, well I taught at a daycare, 2-3 year old...there would be sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo way treats that there would not be enough places to put them and them kids are the crazy loonie tunes ever...I HAD to come up with a better plan or I would go crazy.

    I came up with a sing up list of fruit plate, veggie plate, crackers, juice, ect. And it worked great, I still got candies and stuff but I could give them some fruit, veggies, cracker and then they would not be soooo crazy. Now maybe still not as healthy but at least it was not all candy.

    Funny some teachers thought I was crazy...having a party with veggies? but some teachers love the idea and at the next party they did the same.

    good luck

    1806 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/11/2013 11:09:48 AM
    Wow, marvelous rant! I can tell you are working so hard to make sure your kids, your family, you are safe! I feel your frustration. Just yesterday I mentioned to my husband on our drive home that every fast food joint I pass, every dollar store, or even grocery mart is FILLED to the brim with destructive foods, but there is absolutely no regulation. I seen a study once where sugar was equated to liquor and that some of the chemicals they equally possess do the same amount of damage to our bodies! Why is one illegal and the other welcomed every day in our children's menus at school? MIND BOGGLING BAFFLISM to me. I do a lot of praying and need a lot of self control to maneuver the shark infested waters. I am praying the same for you! Keep up the good fight, you're making a difference :D and who knows maybe you will be that spokesperson. I'd love it, lol :D Be encouraged, Rach
    1806 days ago
  • ERIN1957
    You go for it! Rant you have ever right to.
    Me to, I am so sick of my children (adults) killing themselves and my grandchildren and I don't have a say about it! Why not?!
    My eldest son just got diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and he is in his 30's. Where is the wake up call? I have three grandchildren that refuse to eat a vegetable and two of them have a nurse as a mom!!!
    Rant rave and scream if you have to. They are your babies and you have the right to set the rules for their lives. Do it now and teach them to say no, as well address this with the school board.
    Our children need to be protected from poison!
    1806 days ago
  • MAGGIE101857
    Sometimes the best you can do is find a balance; sounds like you are doing a great job educating your children about the negative effects, but kids will be kids ( I know - frustrating!) and other parents will be other parents. Like JO99BAKO, for me "moderation" doesn't work well (as was evident yesterday when I went completely overboard).

    Keep up the good work at home and when you are dining out, and feel free to rant to me and others here.

    1806 days ago
    Safe to rant but you won't feel a lot better because you are your children's advocate and you can't change the world. Baby steps. You are dong what you can and you are making changes and they will always be able to make choices based on the tools you have given them.

    Check out a great new book similar to the Eat This Not That on SOME level but SO much more...

    Rich Food Poor Food by Jayson and Mira Calton
    The Ultimate Grocery Purchasing System (GPS) Shop Smart, Shop Healthy Save Time Save Money Avoid Hype and Harmful Ingredients -- google it and check it out. You will LOVE it!
    1806 days ago
  • ZRIE014
    i used running to do that
    1807 days ago
  • JO88BAKO
    This is a very safe place to vent! I understand what you are saying, and yes, it gets on my nerves also. For me, there is no moderation with trigger foods. Hope you feel better!
    1807 days ago
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