Tuesday, April 09, 2013
and asks to use the bathroom. Would you let them in?
This actually happened to me yesterday. It was about 10 am, and I was home by myself waiting for a delivery
( an outside table to set up for ping pong :) ) They were supposed to come between 9 and 11. Beautiful day, windows open, and I had the front door open( storm door was closed) to let the sun in.
I heard a knock on the door and thought it was the delivery people. I see a man, maybe late 50's, in a button down shirt and jeans through the door.
I open the door expecting to be handed something to sign for the table. Instead he holds up a large camera with a long lens and says" I'm a photographer, can I use your bathroom?"
Now, I am at the bottom of a cul de sac, in the middle of a large neighborhood. There is no reason to be here unless you are visiting someone, certainly nothing worth getting it's picture taken. It's a nice, friendly, middle class neighborhood but not exactly picturesque :) I lived here for 13 years, and know all my immediate neighbors, and a many of the rest of the neighbors at least to wave to. We are about 3 mins from a sort of open mall with many stores and restaurants including a mcdonald's and a target. And we are literally down the street from a public park with restrooms. My point is, my house is not in the middle of no where, and my bathroom is not the only one available.
So, back to the guy on the porch. I say, "no I am sorry you can not He says in this kinda fake shock "Really? you won't let me in?" I say "REally! , but there are restrooms at the park up the street." He looks like he might say something else, but turns around an slowly heads to his car. Then he sits in his car, and makes a phone call. Now, I would have to be literally about to have an accident before I would knock on someone's door. And even then, I would use a bush first. And this guy mosies to his car, and then sits there for 5 mins on the phone.
Oh and my neighbors across the street were out doing yard work. (3 adult males) He could have asked them if he was desperate. But he didn't.
This FREAKED me out. We run a business out of our home. We have a PO Box, but I am sure if someone really wanted to find us, they could. We don't keep anything here of value, but some thief wouldn't know that. I called my husband who agreed it was creepy. I then called the police to report it. 311, not 911 since I didn't feel immediately threatened. I have never called for anything since we have lived here. The police were so great! when I told them what happened (after my whole prelude of I don't know if you all care about this and don't want to bother you but...) The police woman on the phone was like "yea! that is weird. If you have to use a stranger's bathroom, you don't have time to be sitting in your car!"
As I was talking to the police, trying to give them a description, I noticed just how NON-descript he was. Middle age, white male, button down shirt, faded jeans, hat with no logo, no facial hair. His camera didn't even have a strap. I guess this struck me because I be a hobby photographer. I know how heavy and expensive a big camera with a long lens can be. You don't carry it around with out a strap wrapped around your hand. I am sure you have seen them, most of them look like colorful guitar straps. this camera was all black..I don't even remember seeing a flash of silver of a logo. We now think that camera was a prop. And is car! Small older white four door, no trim, again, no logo on the back of the car. Like he had taken off the honda or toyota logo.
It was all just so bizarre. But you know, most of the freaky stuff (sitting in his car, noticing the blandness of him and such) was noticed AFTER I had to make the call about letting a stranger use my bathroom. That decision had to be made in a split second because I had never even thought of someone asking. So, I am asking you now..would you let a stranger use your bathroom?