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What should I have an afternoon health aide do?

Monday, April 08, 2013

After 7 years of me paying for health aides, Medicare will (temporarily) send aides for my husband 3 times a week for 2 hours each time! There is a God!

I have been working on this. It sure did not happen automatically!

I still need to pay the aide who gets him up in the morning to get him bathed and up. The aides Medicare is paying for come in the afternoon . I hope I can get real help from this aide.

My husband has been known to send aides home! He says he does not need help! emoticon

I have to be sure this aide has something worthwhile to do. And the only way it will work is if my husband lets the aide do things for him. I have been talking to him about it.


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MOM2ACAT 4/9/2013 5:47PM

    Everyone has given you some great ideas!

I like the idea of you getting out of the house for some "me" time, even if it's just some shopping or maybe having lunch out with a friend. I think we take better care of others when we are taking good care of ourselves too.

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    Let your hubby know it would be a personal favor to/for YOU, to let the aides do their jobs, and maybe he will go for that!

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TXMEMAW6 4/9/2013 10:34AM

    Whatever you find for the caregiver to do, I'm just glad that you're getting some much needed help! Others have made suggestions for the caregiver, and I agree with them, but you need to take that time for yourself. I think you'll be surprised how nice it feels to have a little time to do things you want and need to do. Take good care, my friend, and good luck with the caregiver. Hugz coming your way!

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123ELAINE456 4/9/2013 1:40AM

  You have a lot of different Ideas to work with. And maybe do the Laundry. That would help You a lot. Let us know how Things Work Out. I'm glad that You are getting the Extra Help With Him. You really Did Need It. God Blessings to Everyone. Have a Super Nice Day. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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LINDAF49 4/9/2013 12:34AM

    Oh Chris, YEAH!!! My first goal would be some physical therapy and movement for DH. Plan a "work first and then play"...whatever game or movie or craft thing DH will be interested in and enjoy AFTER they do some exercises/therapy/work.
Men might not like this as well as women but there should be an understanding that this is for his physical health AND FOR ENJOYMENT. Is this a female or male aid? If it is another man, they might really enjoy a sports program, even getting out and watching a local team? or watching games on TV? Tape them if needed...and yes, use this time for YOU time...away from the house if possible, if not not, at least do something for scrapbook?, craft? get out and make a flower bed or garden plot and do your thing while someone else is waiting on, entertaining or helping DH. Keep us posted. I am so excited for you and the possibilities of good from this.

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MALKS_ARIA 4/9/2013 12:24AM

    I found a list... I know some of these are repeated, but all the research I came up with is below...:
*Massage patients and apply preparations and treatments, such as liniment, lotion, alcohol rubs, and heat-lamp stimulation.
*wash and iron patients' laundry
*Clean their area - Bathroom, Vacuum, Dust, Wipe down counters, Tables, Any area that he may use at any time. -- or are used for him!! (if the bathroom isn't used by him any longer but you use a specific bathroom to empty his portable seat... then they can clean it and the seat)
*Cook Meals for Patient and Family Members to have together based on Dietary needs - also prep "Freezer meals" So he can have healthy instant meals for those days you are not up to cooking they can be microwaved.
*Help with Filing and Record Keeping related to Him
*Help with Transportation with Dr Visits & activities
*Help with Grocery Shopping, or Household supplies (of course money supplied)
*respite care (you getting out with someone else watching him)
*reading a book to him/working a puzzle, game or Brain teaser with
*You can have them help get him ready for bed - yes it is early but it would be less stress on lifting for you.
Hope this list helps spark some ideas!! I am glad you are getting extra help!!

Comment edited on: 4/9/2013 12:29:50 AM

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IAMWINNING 4/8/2013 10:25PM

    Real good suggestions, I can't add more. Just to emphasize the when the aide is there, get out of the house, even if you just go sit in the library (for instance); but it would be a good time for you to take a walk. Be sure to let us know how it all works out.

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CATHEMARIE 4/8/2013 10:05PM

    All good suggestions. Praying for you and your husband.


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FROSTY99 4/8/2013 9:21PM

    Like the others said, I think you have to find out what they are allowed to do-they should be able to provide you with a list and they you and DH can decide what he would like them to do for him. I would think the cleaning and maybe even some cooking would be a big help for you. Take advantage of the time the aide is there and get some "me" time after you know all is going well.
Here is to more freedom for you.

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NANCYPAT1 4/8/2013 8:49PM

    I think it depends on the specific agency what the aides are allowed to do. I certainly hope you can get some REAL help from them. I continue to keep you in my prayers.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 4/8/2013 8:40PM

    Ask what they can do. If they can help make meals for him and/or feed him, help with changing/washing his sheets, or help with cleaning up his areas then that's stuff you don't have to do.

You might consider letting the aide stay with him while you get out of the house for some 'me time'. Also be sure to tell the aide that no matter what he says s/he is not allowed to leave. If he insists s/he is to get your verbal okay first.

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SANDRALEET 4/8/2013 7:45PM

    If yore husband is like mine he want some help not to much then I have to do it After his bath he likes the aid to talk to him When real handicap they can not do much we have one come in 2 times a week for a hour

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RETURNTOTHIN 4/8/2013 7:20PM

    Is he up all day?
What does he sit in?
I would think he would need to lay down for about an hour in the afternoon.
Why can't she give him the bath?
Is his bottom ok?
Does he need his feet soaked?
What does he like to do to pass the time that someone can help him with?
Does he play games?
Will this be a time you can leave and run errands or see friends or take care of banking or whatever?
Not sure I have any brilliance ......

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TLG71567 4/8/2013 7:18PM

    I am not sure what aides are allowed to do, but here are a few ideas. Have them help with cleaning, changing the bed, cooking meals, taking your husband for a walk, help him do an activity that he enjoys, or do exercises with him. Like I said, I am not sure what the parameters are here, so just a few ideas. Good luck.

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