Monday, April 08, 2013
Good Morning; I have to send positive energy to my DS for the next couple of weeks.
Army against one soldier is a hard thing to take. DS praises all of his brothers in his hanger as being so supportive, but he has an SOB first SGT. DS wanted full custody of his daughter b/c he did not have confidence that his GF could handle the baby - past history of her actions lead us all to believe that. The Army encouraged him to keep his rights to the baby, but just recently he was told differently. We wanted to get a lawyer for my DS but now that things are processing faster than planned we have decided to let DS just get out. He has not been given any more referrals for physical therapy for his back or any support in that area. It was just the same with me, when I married DH in Germany. I had a root canal done and paid for by Army but they would not do a crown b/c Dh would not re-enlist. It was not worth it to the Army to pay any more for my care. My son is not unique- it is what our soldiers go through and it will get worse with the downsizing of the military with the ending of Afghanistan.
My DS is afraid of his future without the Army. But we feel that their will be a period of adjustment for him but he will survive with our help. We know that we probably will have to give him some assistance b/c of the $1700 that GF took from his bank account. So far he has not asked for any money, he also planned to have time to rebuild up his savings but will not be able without a paycheck. He is looking into options but the civilian life is scary. Everything in the Army is on post and every thing outside has many avenues and choices. He will make it I know, but I just have to convince him. If any one has any suggestions, let me know. For example his education benefits have so many options. He is trying to get a handle on this. Have a good day!! Send prayers to my DS.