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A Sobering Reminder...

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Sunday, April 07, 2013

I don't want to "milk" my before pics to try to get a reaction, I am posting these for ME. My wife was cruising through the kids computer (which used to be mine) and there were some pics on there that was downloaded from a birthday party and a vacation about 6 or so years ago. I never exported these to my new system and usually pics like these never made it to the computer because they revealed ugliness so they got deleted.

That is a shame because there is a pic that has a totally beautiful shot of me and my daughters playing in the water and I was basically a horse and my youngest was riding me... giddy up dad...

How many memories have I deleted because of my shame and disgust in my appearance?

I would urge you to not do this... you will regret it later.

Many memories have hit the cyber trash can because I hated myself and what I looked like. Please do not do this to yourself and your family, those pics are a record of your life and I will never get those years back when they were little.

I'm glad these missed the "shredder"


I had so many mixed feelings looking at these.

1) Pride- look at what has happened over the last few years!..EPIC weight loss :)

2) Shame - I can't believe I looked like that all the time, even my hands had a double chin... I wore that gold 4X shirt all the time because it was among the few shirts in my closet that both fit and hid some of my more distasteful features.

3) Loss - How many memories have been lost forever because I hated what I looked like and pictures were deleted right on the camera after failing the personal scrutiny test.

4) Fondness - I had so much fun camping that week! I would love to go again.

Love yourself NOW, not 50 pounds from now. DO NOT hide from the camera or destroy those images from your past that can never be recaptured. Like the scale is only a number, a picture only captures what is there at that present moment, the image does not define YOU as a person.

Don't trash your memories.

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
PRETTYPITHY 4/7/2013 3:42PM

    Wonderful message. Also, when we delete the "fat pictures" in addition to erasing memories, we prolong the denial that enabled us to reach that weight in the first place.

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COCK-ROBIN 4/7/2013 3:21PM

    You did a great job, you've come a long way.

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    Robert, I love that you share your pix, because you're authentic and relatable. You didn't know it back then, but you had an athlete inside waiting for a chance to show.

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DALID414 4/7/2013 3:09PM

    I think we are our own worst critic. Others see the event, the moment in time, the fun that was had, and all we see is how bad we look.

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BLUEROSE73 4/7/2013 2:39PM

    Beautiful pics of you with your kids. And good for you for making the changes you needed to change where you are in life. You are such an inspiration. Not only to others here at SP, but also to your kids.

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LJCANNON 4/7/2013 2:27PM

    emoticon I am glad that you found those Pictures & That you posted this Blog. I am not sure I would have believed you "Before" but at least it would have made me stop and think before I shredded the Old Pictures.

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_BABE_ 4/7/2013 2:25PM

    Whether you hide from the camera ( which is my history) or delete pics you are negating a part of your life that had value and that is sad....good blog for all. emoticon

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KARRENLYNN 4/7/2013 2:16PM

    I hide from the camera all the time. I hate when people put pics on FB that I was in, makes me cringe everytime. I'm glad you found pictures of your family that you like.


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DRB13_1 4/7/2013 1:28PM

    poignant...maybe I won't hide from the camera every time "now" - I want to be with loved ones.
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LIVEDAILY 4/7/2013 1:25PM

    Thank you for sharing Robert. It is so true. We will never be able to recapture moments from the past. We CAN plan for the future though. I think you need to give serious thought to planning another camping trip with your family, and make some new memories.

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JUNEAU2010 4/7/2013 1:19PM

    Even worse than the trashed pictures are the pictures never taken for the same reason.
I am missing years of special events and moments of happiness...

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HOPESINGH 4/7/2013 1:07PM

    You are so right! You can love yourself and your life even if you don't look like your "ideal". Glad you found some of these pictures.

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MARILYNROBERT 4/7/2013 12:59PM

    What a great lesson for us all. You and your daughters look so happy. Glad this picture survived.

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ONEKIDSMOM 4/7/2013 12:27PM

    "Before" is important motivation. Glad you found a few out there...

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LINDAK25 4/7/2013 12:22PM

    You're so right! In the future, when people look at pictures of family picnics, graduations and weddings they won't see me. Why? Because I didn't like the way I looked. Now it looks as though I was never there because I didn't care, and that's so far from the truth. Too late.

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FITFOODIE806 4/7/2013 12:18PM

    Super dad!! Love the pics :)

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SCRAPPER1124 4/7/2013 12:16PM

    great points. I hide from the camera all the time.Good food for thought emoticon

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ALWYS-LKN-UP 4/7/2013 12:01PM

    emoticon Well said & so true!!

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MARINEMAMA 4/7/2013 12:01PM

    Thanks for sharing!

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_JODI404 4/7/2013 11:55AM

    Wise words! No one likes to see a really unflattering picture of themselves. Sometimes it is a bad photo that can actually spark the flame to change to living a healthy lifestyle.

Your weight loss is absolutely epic!! You have so much to be proud of.

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LTURSS 4/7/2013 11:47AM

    Great blog. That's so true!

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DUXGRL1 4/7/2013 11:34AM

    Great thoughts!

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GARDENCHRIS 4/7/2013 11:30AM

    you are who you are .. no matter what size you were or are... your children love you no matter what! you will now be able to be MORE or what you were because of what you have done! emoticon

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STRIVERONE 4/7/2013 11:28AM

    You're right. I've been asked for before pictures and there are very few. The funny thing is that at the time I decided to keep most of those, I thought I looked great because I looked so much better than I did in the pictures I didn't keep or as was usually the case, did not allow to be taken. I know a lot of people on my other favorite site (LiveFitRevolution Org) are in the same situation.

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 4/7/2013 11:27AM

    Yep, I have VERY few photos of me with my kids from "before." I TOTALLY regret that. Great blog!

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LADY_MARIANA 4/7/2013 11:18AM

    What a wonderfully perceptive blog entry. I, too, have avoided being photographed or avoided keeping old pictures. You continue to be a great inspiration to me and I know to many others.

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EXPOGIRL50 4/7/2013 11:18AM

    First of all, three cheers for you -- amazing! Thank you for sharing. I always hate to see pix, but they are a wake up call and fuel to do what needs to be done.

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KUTEY5041 4/7/2013 11:17AM

    If you would have deleted the one of you and your kids, you would have been sad. That is a perfect picture. Don't need to go into motivation speeches with you since U have become my teacher and I have become your learner on inner beauty. emoticon

I have a picture of me and my two parents on my page that I almost deleted cause I looked so big to me. Lost my mom 9 months later. I would have never had it and never had the chance for the 3 of us to get it again either since parents had been divorced 25 yrs and it was at a funeral we were all at.

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    I thank you for the reminder.

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KITT52 4/7/2013 11:17AM


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SUNSHINE99999 4/7/2013 11:16AM

  nothing like family time.

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AZMOMXTWO 4/7/2013 11:16AM

  great blog and a great thing to say I wonder how many photos i have thrown away for what ever reason

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BRASKIN 4/7/2013 11:15AM

  words of wisdom... emoticon

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