Friday, April 05, 2013
Okay, so I'm taking a risk posting this since I have suggested the SP site to the friend I am posting about, but oh well. I've told her this too.
So, there's this friend of mine...we've known each other since kindergarten and have been "best friends" on and off during that time, which included a falling out that lasted a few years. We live about 6 hours away from each other but still get together a couple times a year and have fun. Well, lately I've been busy and working a lot and especially not in the mood to talk on the phone so I haven't called or answered her calls for a couple months but I keep in touch in a general way on facebook, etc.
So she, being a MAJOR phone person, takes this as a personal thing, which it's not. I haven't liked talking on the phone much since graduating high school. I prefer to say what I need to say and get off the phone. But since we used to talk on the phone a lot when we were younger she gets offended that I don't want to as much now. I have other life-long friends that I hardly ever talk to, but we touch base from time to time through fb and we get together every few years and it's great. I wish she understood that kind of friendship. It's timeless, fun, etc. ...and what I have time for! (reason #201 why guys are easier to be friends with)
Anyway, twice yesterday she threw drama my way. On a fb she messaged me about how she's getting used to not talking to me and it's opened her eyes or something to that affect... Then she texted me later that day that she's cleaning out her phone contacts and if I wanted to remain friends, let her know so she doesn't delete me. I'm thinking, "Really?! How old are you?!" So I told her to stop with the drama...(I'm not one to coddle people)..of course we're friends but I've been busy. She said she was just annoyed with not being able to talk to me and then we ended up messaging back and forth a bit about health and nutrition since she's been on a weight loss journey also.
Well, I'm going down to my hometown in a couple weeks (near where she lives) and she and I will undoubtedly get together and have a good time, but I have to tell her to stop overanalyzing stuff. I appreciate her, but it's hard enough to find time to cultivate friendships with people in my area, I can't spend an hour on the phone with her once or more a week. There are so many other things I need to be doing just to keep my house in order, take care of my hubby and kids and help out at church.
Sorry for the vent, but just wanted to get that off my chest. I sound pretty cold, but there's SO much more to our backstory it would take a book to go into it. I think I WILL write a book, change some names, call it "fiction," and make a mint!
Days On Plan: 4