Thursday, April 04, 2013
My boss has been talking a lot lately about visualization...
"Visualize exactly what it is that you want, and it will come to you."
"What a load a crap!", I used to think.
I'm starting to think he may be on to something.
Every time he talks about visualization, he usually references money and success in his career.
"A few years ago, I knew what I wanted; I wanted a lot of money, and I wanted to be a successful business owner. For weeks I would sit down and visualize having a lot of money and owning my own business. I could see it. I could smell it. I could close my eyes and breathe it. I would do this for a few minutes every day. And then one day, I received a check in the mail and an opportunity to start my own business."
I used to shake my head, and think, "Yeah right! Impossible! Dan, you sound like one of those late-night infomercials that talks about praying for money and *POOF* there's your money! (With no real explanation about who or what it came from)."
He accepted the money that the individual wanted to invest in him and started his business. And that was the end of his story. We all knew his dream had never truly become a reality because he was standing in front of us as General Manager of a restaurant owned by one of the most popular grocery stores in North Eastern America. His boss's boss's boss's boss is the true owner of our restaurant. He did achieve success in part of his career, though.
I don't think his point is that if you think real hard about something, then magically, whatever it is you really want, will appear before your eyes. I believe in many things that most people do not, but I do not believe that things magically appear in front of you just by "wishing" or "thinking" it there.
I do believe that everything happens for a reason. And that if you focus on one thing for so long, then you will make it happen for yourself.
My story and what I "want" doesn't involve money or being successful in my career. I could live in a shoebox on the corner and be happy, as long as I have my husband and my kittens. I would be happier volunteering my time to people who need me with no pay if I could eat, sleep, shower, and live comfortably. My story involves living a healthy lifestyle (which to my advantage, doesn't involve anyone but myself, which means I am in charge!).
Even though living a healthy lifestyle seems A LOT easier than obtaining a large sum of cash out of no where, its not. Psychologically, it is one of the hardest things I've attempted to do (besides college chemistry). I've never been in a fiercer battle with myself. I KNOW I am completely 100% capable of achieving a healthy lifestyle and a healthy weight. But for some reason, I fall victim to food and laziness. I have the knowledge and I possess the desire and the motivation, but emotionally and psychologically, I'm holding myself back. For some reason, even though I know I am capable of achieving a healthy weight, psychologically, I cannot envision myself weighing less than I do now. I believe this may be because when I was at a healthy weight, I still FELT as overweight as I am now.
So, to pull myself out of this rut, I'm going to try Dan's technique of visualization. I am going to visualize myself going to the gym 5 nights a week. I am going to visualize myself eating 5 servings of fruits and vegetables a day. I will visualize myself drinking 64 fl oz of water everyday. And I will visualize myself zipping up those size 6 pair of jeans.
If I can see myself doing it, then maybe it will happen.
Now that I think of it, I achieved this technique back in high school freshman cheer leading. I really wanted to be able to do a back handspring on my own. Every night before I went to bed, I would imagine myself doing it on my own. I would close my eyes, and imagine doing a back handspring. I could feel it. The jump, pushing off the ground with my toes, reaching back toward the ground, the pressure on my hands, pushing from my shoulders as I swung my legs in an arc toward the ceiling and back toward the floor. This truly helped me to do it on my own. Within a few weeks, I was at practice and actually did it on my own. My coach was so excited, she rushed me into the Varsity squad's practice to show them. I did it and everyone clapped. It was a moment I will never forget.
And now to achieve the same success in weight loss...