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I Carry My Weight Well?!? What?!

Thursday, April 04, 2013

Um ... I just had a friend tell me that I carry weight well! Excuse me! Maybe, it's just me! I do NOT want to carry my being over weight, well ... I want to lose the excess weight that I gained, since I was ill. Yes, I could have slapped her! Of course, I really didn't, or didn't, really, want to; however, I am sure that there are a lot of people, that understand where I am going, and what I am trying to say. I just think that on people that are tall, like me, 200 pounds, or more, I guess, doesn't look, or appear, that bad; as it does on people that are of short stature, making them appear plump. However, overweight is overweight! You should never tell anyone that their weight becomes them, if they are OVER WEIGHT!


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4EVER21B 4/11/2013 4:24PM


I am sure she meant well...but I know what you mean.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 4/4/2013 7:57PM

    Did you take a moment to explain to your friend why what she said was hurtful? Often times when someone who cares about us says something that is hurtful to us, they didn't mean to say it in such a hurtful way. If it's not brought to their attention then they may make the mistake again. When it's a stranger or someone we aren't close to then we can try to allow the words to roll off our backs, but with friends it's often much more painful.

For instance, people like me with invisible medical conditions are often told really stupid things like 'but you don't look sick' and it is extremely hurtful. But to someone who has never dealt with a debilitating condition that can't be seen might think they're paying a compliment. If it's someone who doesn't need to understand I try to ignore it, but with people who should care I attempt to explain to them why that statement is so wrong and hurtful. They'll apologize in return and try to do better next time. So I hope you find a way to explain to your friend WHY it was hurtful so she can do better in the future.

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SPARKLE1908 4/4/2013 6:43PM

    I's very annoying when people "try" to say the right thing...I know that some try to be well-meaning but sometimes it is best to just be silent...LOL

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CRAFTINWIFE 4/4/2013 5:56PM


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DOLPHINSINGER72 4/4/2013 5:12PM

    I totally get where you are coming from. I am 5'9 and I got that on occasion. Trust me I wish I was not carrying it all. I feel ya!

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CINDYAST 4/4/2013 5:07PM

    Yeah, I understand. I also dislike being called "heavy set". Ugh. People should think BEFORE they speak.

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CHERIJ16 4/4/2013 5:06PM

    I know what you are saying. I had a friend tell me I wasn't fat, just FLUFFY! That just sounds like a euphemism for fat to me even though she was trying to be nice. emoticon

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AUGUSTDRAGON 4/4/2013 4:27PM

    I'd enjoy any opportunity to drop it off somewhere and leave it! I'm not the least bit interested in how "well" I carry it. emoticon

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SJACK06S 4/4/2013 3:40PM

  I think people just do not understand. They make these comments, thinking they are compliments, when in fact, they are undermining all of the hard work and the purpose of healthy living. Smile, say "thanks," and continue on your way!

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BARBIE66 4/4/2013 3:02PM

    I totally understand what you are saying people around me say that all that time .. it hurts me feelings.. since I am trying to get healthy...they should think before they open thier mouths...

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STLADEE 4/4/2013 2:56PM

    I am short, I mean really short and people tell me this all the time! Even go as far and say. You don't look that big! So I am big nonetheless, i know it and please reframe from saying such things to me!

So feel your pain!

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ABAKER34 4/4/2013 2:53PM

    Yeah...that's pretty insensitive...foot in mouth syndrome.

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MIRFA71 4/4/2013 2:36PM

    emoticon emoticon

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