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Big Decision Made--I Feel Good About it Though

Thursday, April 04, 2013

As most of you know by now, I have turned my life around from a very unhealthy, unnatural way of living. I was once a chain-smoking, fast food eating, sedentary, prescription pill-filled mess. Just over a year ago, my life took a serious turn and I have become an extreme naturalist. I believe in the mind and body working together with God to heal ailments. I believe that our bodies were divinely made to function with just what was given to us on this Earth. This is a very extreme line of thought, but I have seen it work for me, and I continue to make small changes in this direction. Nope, I'm not perfectly natural all the time. I still enjoy a coke once in a while (even though it never helped anyone lose a pound ever). I do still get busy and swing by for a fast food meal on the go from time to time. I still have my lazy days and I still take a tylenol from time to time when I have a headache. But, I will say, I have changed. I feel confident in my changes and comfortable in my own skin. I no longer sit and worry that I will die from the cursed heart disease and stroke that seems to plague my family. Could I still be genetically disposed to these diseases? Of course! But, I feel confident that by changing now, I'm possibly decreasing these health risks and adding valuable years to my life.

I make this statement first to let each of you know where I stand. I certainly do not wish to offend anyone here on spark with my personal decisions, and I want it to be known that I an open-minded person. Open-mindedness, however is what has led me to my most current big decision. I hesitated for a while to post anything about it here because I have seen friends (and myself) receive lashings on facebook for statements/decisions they have announced there. This is why I no longer possess a facebook account. I do feel comfortable that my spark friends will support my decision. All this being said, I will let you know that I have made the choice and the switch to a midwife.

My DH and I have seen many friends fall victim to the convenience games/scare tactics the doctors of the U.S. play. In all reality, it's not truly ALL their fault. Much of the driving force is in the insurance companies who boss around the doctors here. The U.S. has the second highest fetal/maternal mortality rate in the world. I had already seen evidence in my own OB's office that still makes me shutter. My latest experience was having the nurse defensively tell me that I probably wouldn't be seeing the doctor because "she has been trying to deliver a baby for an entire 30 minutes and we think she's going to have to do an emergency c-section." 30 minutes? Seriously? Please, let me tell you the other part of this...the time was 4:30 pm.

I am not here to rant about how horrible doctors are. I don't believe they all are by any means--let's just say MY personal experiences have always been negative. I am here to say that after extensive research, watching "The Business of Being Born," much prayer, and lengthy discussions, my DH and I decided that a midwife was definitely our preferred choice for this birth. Our insurance will cover it just the same, and probably better because it is cheaper than a hospital birth. I will not be forced to take any unnatural drugs. I will still have a back-up doctor in the event of an emergency. I will get to have this baby in the comfort of my own home in my own time frame. My body will let me know the proper time and there will be no limitations. It is also likely that I will get to have a water birth, as this is a provision made by the midwife we have hired.

I feel so confident that this is the right decision for my baby, my body, and my husband too. She came to our house last night for the first time. We let our dogs stay in, despite my hesitation. One of them tends to have a bad attitude towards strangers. However, when she came in and sat down in my living room, Mr. Attitude jumped right in her lap, rested his head into her neck and literally hugged her!!! It was awfully sweet, but I have to admit that it made me feel comfortable. There is a long-standing belief in my family that the way an animal reacts to a person says much about their personal character. Both of my dogs fell in love with our midwife! She really is calm and sweet and has never once rushed us through. She is very knowledgeable and has been doing this for 30 years--she has never even missed one birth. Even better, out of the 3,000 births she has attended, only 12 women had to go to the hospital. So, I feel very good about this decision!

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    Wishing you the best of luck! I think everyone needs to consider carefully, make sure appropriate safety precautions are in place, and then make the decision that feels best for them. So excited for you!
    1480 days ago
    I had my 3 girls in a hospital, but they were delivered by a midwife. She is fantastic. She never told me what I "had" to do, she just asked what I wanted to do. If I wasn't sure, she gave me my options and let me decide. I hope all goes well for you! Good luck!
    1481 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/10/2013 2:00:56 PM
  • BETHS60
    I had 3 children delivered by midwife 20+ years ago. The midwives were wonderful. I strongly support your decision.
    1483 days ago
    Cati, I've had 8 children. I had Drs on all the births except the last on. I went with a midwife because I couldn't find a Dr I was comfortable with as we had moved. It was a wonderful experience. Much easier and more comfortable. I did have him in a hospital, but I know 2 ladies who had their children by a midwife in their own homes and loved it!! I know, you will not regret the decision you've made! Good luck!
    1485 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Thats fantastic!! I applaud you to have the courage to leave the sterile atmosphere of the hospital behind. Really, women had to give birth naturally before Dr.'s and hospitals ever came along and they seemed to do just fine!! I too, think an animal is a good judge of character! Sounds like this midwife is a keeper! I have heard water birth makes things just a tad bit easier. Wishing you all the best with it!!
    1486 days ago
  • DAWNESS0404
    You should absolutely do what you feel most comfortable with! Now I am a big baby who hates pain and said give me something as soon as possible. Lol ..of course I also had a 9 lb 7 oz baby a 10 lb 1oz baby and a 8 lb 14 oz baby without c sections. Sounds like you have really looked into this and have given it great thought. No one should make you feel bad about that!
    1486 days ago
    I had my babies naturally. Midwives were not around or maybe I didn;t know about them then *16 years ago* in Kentucky. I know you will make good decisions for you and this new life. I agree hospitals were so much work and I labored at home until the last minute. I am so glad that we have options because so many more women died and babies, but you are right so much is dictated by insurance and law suits not comfort or really whats best. Best wishes. You go!
    1486 days ago
    We all have to do what we think is best for us. Other people not in your shoes should judge your decision. Carry on!
    1486 days ago
    Good for you! If midwives were legal and available in my state, I would have went that route as well. As it was, I had a natural/pain med free very easy hospital birth. I'm sure all will go fine for you!

    1486 days ago
    I don't have personal experience with a midwife birth but I've heard good things about them. Obviously you have done your research on this - it isn't just a passing fancy. So I support you completely in your decision!! Your animals loving her is just one more positive!!
    1486 days ago
    My sister-in-law did the same thing, and she loved it. She's a huge supporter of it, and she's looking to use a mid-wife with her next pregnancy.

    I'm on the fence about it. I see both sides. However, I love the idea of a natural birth. It's so much better for you, your body, and your baby. Good luck!
    1487 days ago
    I am totally with you on this! This is awesome! I wanted a midwife so badly for my third child - the first time I even knew that was an option, which'll tell you something - but I was in a small rural area and he was too high risk (almost 10 lbs, breech, etc) for a midwife. Boo. But I did tell my doctor that I refused to be medicated, to be cut open, etc. He let me do things my way. It ended up being the most traumatic birth out of the three (NOT because of the natural factor, but because Laurence was HUGE and had the cord around his neck and was blue when he came out), but I don't mind because if I'd been with another doctor, my son would have died. If I'd been on medication, I wouldn't have been able to feel that he needed to come out NOW even if I wasn't having contractions. My body told me something was wrong, and I got him out in 11 mins, just in time to keep him from dying from that cord around his neck. In my opinion, except for real high risk pregnancies/deliveries, midwife is a great option. Water birth would have been even better!
    1487 days ago
  • SAASHA17
    Thats awesome..if it feels right to U...just do it!! As long as u are aware of the safety and all...

    take care

    PS: She must be awesome for ur little attitude to love her..lol
    1487 days ago
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