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Friends..fake or real

Thursday, April 04, 2013

Recently I have been forced to reevaluate a friendship and the outcome isn't the best. This person used to be my best friend, the one I turned to when I unexpectedly fell pregnant and didn't know whatto do. We worked at the same place and did lunch every day and I would usually stop at hers for ccup pa before going home. We'd see each other on the weekends too. However since having my son 5 years ago I made a change I quit smoking. Also I left my job although we remained friends I began to realise it was on her terms. Me to go over to see her, she never came to me, always had an excuse..I don't drive, can't afford a taxi and so on. Now its my mum doesn't like cats and we can't leave dad alone due to his alhezimers. Thing is this girl spends more a year on holidays and smoking than I earn, she buys whatever she wants for herself and her daughter but tries to plead poverty yo me.

Last year all I got for my birthday was a text while she was on holiday, no card, flowers or anything
when she came back. Now this year when I was made redundant at the beginning if February I rang and told her. But since then I haven't heard from her.. Maybe its me but regardless if your own problems surely if you were a real friend you would want to be there for someone when they had such a nasty shock. I know her dads not well but its not why does it feel that air should be supporting her and not her supporting me? I just feel that this is on her terms and she doesn't think about me at all..unless she needs an ear to bend. So real or fake? I know she has other friends ahe does stuff with, she mocks my fitness and diet plans. She is who I was but thats not me now..I enjoy exercise, running and not smoking. Her activity runs to a slow 10 minute walk to work and back and that's it. Maybe its time to let go of the past and move on..
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    Sounds like she is missing out on the opportunity to have a truly awesome friend. If she makes excuses not to see you and mocks the positive things in your life, then she is probably not a friend. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    Hang in there, you deserve better!!!
    1814 days ago
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    1815 days ago
    her type come a dime a dozen.
    you seem to be willing and capable of real friendship, so why bog yourself down?
    in the long run, you're on the winning track.
    go out and fight gravity.
    1815 days ago
    She doesn't sound like a real friend. The travelling thing I could maybe understand, but if she can go on holiday...and then the mocking your plans for your own health? don't need negativity like that. Gradually distance yourself, if she is a REAL friend, she'll make up the distance. xoxo
    1815 days ago
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