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    OHANAMAMA   127,637
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Bummed, but trying to be positive and bright.

Wednesday, April 03, 2013

I have come to the knowledge that there are some people I liked and respected who do not feel the same about me (they don't even know me) and I don't know why. .... Don't know why this surprises me... I've always said that I care more about some people than they care about me...and in that there is too much truth. Rejection is one of the worst feelings. Wanting to leave everything (and nearly everyone) behind so badly and start over somewhere else (Hawaii would be nice). In the meantime... these quotes make me feel better. Just thought I'd share a few.

I am a strong person. I find myself being a strong person... daily.

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    I sort of followed a trail to your page and then your blog and somehow feel like I came home on your page. Sending hugs and total understanding of what you are saying even though you don't know me. I hope things have gotten better. Smiling just a little at your comment about running away to Hawaii...I JUST had that conversation with a dear friend here on Spark who actually lives there and made my getaway plan and everything. At the last minute I canceled a ferreal plan to go and visit and some of that may have been a real fear that I might not come home...EVER. I tell you this because I truly want you to know that I hear and feel what you are saying. emoticon

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DISPATCHER04 4/10/2013 6:30AM

    Oh, Renee. Your post speaks to my heart, my friend. I've had those same feelings this week. I'm one of those unfortunate creatures that expects everyone to like me, and just not everyone does. ;)


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TRICIAE2 4/8/2013 4:50PM

    There are more of us who LIKE you than those who don't! Their loss!


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LOVESLIFE48 4/8/2013 3:23PM

    I'm sorry you are going through this. emoticon

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SAHMWICH 4/5/2013 11:40PM

    I completely agree, its so hard being rejected.. I just wrote about this in a blog yesterday actually. Always worrying about what others think and how much they like me or accept me is just too much some days!

I think that no matter who you are, you will find yourself caring more for at least 1 person than they care back. Even Jennifer Aniston, someone else super loved and adored by millions... someone rejects her I'm sure. Its the sort of thing that builds character and teaches us lessons... I just keeping loving people, and try not to expect anything in return... sort of like the pay-it-forward thing... in hopes that my love can be transferred by one to another who needs it too.

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ASILLA 4/4/2013 10:07PM

    I really love your quotes, i'm just really sorry you're having to live through this right now. I agree with the others here it's their loss for choosing to treat you this way. Be your strong self and don't let them get under your skin. They can keep on rainin, but you'll always be the parade hon ;)

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HEALTHYSLIM2 4/4/2013 9:43PM

    emoticon emoticon
People are often funny (strange funny, not haha funny!). You are wise and so likeable... so their loss!
Sending you a big hug!

Comment edited on: 4/4/2013 9:44:29 PM

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STARPESCADO 4/4/2013 9:22PM

    Sorry that you are having a stressful time right now. Its their loss not to get to know you! Wishing you better times ahead - huggies! emoticon

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LJR4HEALTH 4/4/2013 8:48PM

    emoticon Great quotes

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ONBEACHSIDE 4/4/2013 8:05PM

    I feel badly that you are hurting and being hurt. I think I have always been a loner. I do more communication here on SP then in life situations. I am always weary of ulterior motives.
I know I probably lose out more but I am too afraid of being hurt that I have my parents and they are my friends. When they go, if I haven't gone already, I will likely be a true hermit now especially with my health.

I do have friends here on SP, but it is not the same as face to face. I know if someone lived near to me, I might actually spend real time with her.

I guess I am also saying don't assume the worst, some of us (I ) have never learned to be around others and feel welcome. I do believe we have sent spark messages to each other and I like that but I tend not to go out too much because I really can just be a downer to people now.

Probably TMI.

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PHEBESS 4/4/2013 7:03PM

    Years ago, a teacher told me that sometimes there are people you don't want to like you - and I've found that to be true.

Of course, the inverse is true too - that there are people who you DO want to like you. And they might, or might not. Thing is, you don't know what's going on with them - they might just be busy, or distracted with problems in their lives, or something. But you can't change how they respond to you - you can only change yourself.

So keep being you. Be the best YOU that you can be. And know that they're missing out on a wonderful person!

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NEVERORNOW 4/4/2013 12:43PM

    emoticon They are missing out on knowing a sweet and wonderful person. And painful as rejection is, they aren't the kind of people you want in your life. Hang in there!

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TERESA159 4/4/2013 11:22AM

    Sorry to hear you've been hurt, that stinks! A wise friend once taught me - "You can't control what other people do, only how you react to it." And for what it's worth, it's their loss, not yours.

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BIGPAWSUP 4/4/2013 11:15AM

    I'm so sorry to hear this. You are a wonderful person with a big heart. You're quotes are lovely and something I hope you can hold on to.

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BETHICANFLY 4/4/2013 10:57AM

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Rejection IS hard and hurtful. I'm sorry you're experiencing it. But you're choosing the right things, believing in yourself and moving on.

I loved your quote pictures. Thanks for sharing them!!

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JUSTME29 4/4/2013 8:49AM

    I am also far more invested in many friendships than the other person. I don't know if it's because that's who I am, or if it's because that's who they are. Either way I understand the feeling of rejection in that sense. All we can do is go on and hope that there are other people out there who are as willing to invest in us as we are in them.

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SALLYANNE0852 4/4/2013 8:35AM

    i know how you feel.

and lately i have even felt like i have lost a couple of life long friends too, as though they have become dissaproving of my decisions or condescneding and where id always been so wanting to live up to their expectations in the past i feel more resentment now.

you know who you are and how you feel and you can only be yourself and you are the one who has to live your life. Not anyone else. Keep your chin up! emoticon

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NGCHILD 4/4/2013 8:10AM

    I have come to the conclusion you can be friends with everyone. No matter how hard you try. Keep your chin up. You are a fabulous person and it is their loss!

Thinking of you.


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DARJR50 4/3/2013 11:33PM

  Just remember, that by rejecting you they are depriving themselves of the joy and honor of knowing you. It is their loss not yours. You will find other people who will not reject you, just don't stop being who you are and let them find you.
I will tell you from personal experience that changing geographical locations is not the answer.
The answer, I think you will find, is in loving yourself and accepting that not all people will want to know you. Those who choose to do so are getting and giving a great gift. Allow them to find you.

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BEAUTIFUL_REINA 4/3/2013 11:20PM

    Aw I"m sorry you are going through this. I don't know how this could be the case when you are so funny and nice and supportive and so likeable. I wish I lived closer and if I did, we could have a girls night out this weekend and go do something healthy and active and non-fattening. ((HUGS))

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