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The husband and Sparkpeople

Tuesday, April 02, 2013

For a change this blog is not all about me. I keep coming back to a thread on the message boards, the husband and junk food: what a great topic.

When I started Sparking I found the food my DH liked to bring into the house really hard to resist, but I think that has changed now, permanently, I hope. DH would bring me a treat of a pinky bar or some chocolate or a creamy dessert or a pastry every day, because he loves me.

I asked him to bring me flowers instead, and he does.

Without making a big thing of it, I asked my DH to help me avoid eating triggers by mostly restricting his treats to his work and car as much as possible. He was happy to be considerate in that way and I became less bothered when he brought chocolate and treats into the house.

I also asked him, when he eats cakes and biscuits to put the containers away because I found seeing them on the bench or putting them away acted as triggers for me.

I suggested that if he wanted a Friday night bowl of chippies, he not buy my favorite brand, and he was happy to comply because then he didn't have to share (well, not so much, anyway).

I would tiptoe out of bed for my Saturday Zumba and come back with coffee for him and the paper. Now I come back and he has vacuumed the floor and loaded the dishwasher!
I invited him to join me on a regular pool date one night a week after work, and he agreed. I made healthy lunch for him when I was making my own lunch (and provided bags of biscuits and treats for him to take to work). Now he has asked me to stop with the treats.
I took over most of the cooking to make sure we had healthy food, and when I got tired of that, I asked him to cook the meat and I would make the salad. I asked him to make healthier food when he wanted to cook meals for us, and he does.

I mentioned how I was beginning to hate supermarket shopping and now we share.

I asked for his support when I started doing a hardcore diet plan so that sometimes we would cook separately and he has taken it up without a blink. He is happy to eat along with me and supplement with any extras he wants.
Guess what?
After more than a year, all at once, it's like someone flipped his switch.
He not only swims, he has joined the gym and has changed his eating and is losing weight hand over fist. I have to keep looking over my shoulder because he is catching me up!
He says I am his inspiration, he saw me putting my health first and working hard at healthy eating and getting out and exercising and enjoying it and resting when I need to and celebrating my success, and he wanted some of that.

It's a win win!

I love my DH, and

PS Yes pinky bars are a snack bar,

can't recall when I last had one, and biscuits are what we call cookies in NZ. Here's one of my favorites, I haven't had one all year!!!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
BLUEJEANS27 4/16/2013 5:44PM

    Loved reading this!! Kudos to the both of you!

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LOSTLIME 4/6/2013 7:08PM

    What a great blog! Thank you for sharing!

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SANDRAPSKI 4/6/2013 3:44PM

    What a lovely story! Congratulations on having chosen well (grin); you definitely have a "keeper" and he sounds pretty darn fortunate as well. Continued good fortune to you both.

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WESTERNSAGE 4/5/2013 11:49PM

    Congratulations on finding ways to help your husband change his life and join you in healthier living. My husband is supportive and has tried to modify his cooking for me. (He is our family chef.) He even joined me in starting to control his portions and has lost 15 pounds. Those of us with husbands who join us are truly blessed.

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    Behavior modification!
What rewards you have gained!
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NASFKAB 4/4/2013 10:27PM

  awesome great blog

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PATTYKLAVER 4/4/2013 10:04AM

    Glad spouse is helping.

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MNABOY 4/3/2013 10:38PM

    I guess husbands are easier to train than wives!

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RACEWELLWON 4/3/2013 1:04PM

    Oh Fifi , very nice blog - how wonderful to have such loving support - Pool date sounds like fun! Your a lucky gal !! emoticon Hugs K

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SHAMROCKY2K 4/3/2013 12:03PM

    How wonderful.. for you, your relationship and most importantly the health of you both!!
Now I have hope my DH will come around.

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WETPTARMIGAN 4/3/2013 11:30AM

    This mus be what we mean by spreading the spark! emoticon

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ELLENIRENE 4/3/2013 11:00AM

    You're lucky!!

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PAMDAQTPI 4/3/2013 9:44AM

    Life is much easier when your spouse is on board with things. I'm glad you guys found your groove.

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LYNMEINDERS 4/3/2013 3:32AM

    Awesome blog...go you...well done DH

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CAROLYN0107 4/3/2013 3:16AM

    Great Blog!!! emoticon

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FLDEEZ 4/2/2013 10:08PM

    What a lovely post. Kindness is a wonderful thing (and it's pretty effective, too!) My husband is supportive, but can really eat whatever he wants with no ill effect (that plus bike riding 40 miles at a stretch). He and my growing/always-eating/junk-food-lov
ing teenage boys make for tough companions sometimes when I'm trying to avoid everything unhealthy! Just by cooking more meals at home, though, even they are eating a bit better...

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JAMER123 4/2/2013 10:02PM

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You have a hubby like mine!! Isn't it wonderful!! i am the one that is bad with unhealthy snacks and he never says anything. He has lost his weight, maybe 5-10 more but doing great and terrific guy!

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PHEBESS 4/2/2013 7:49PM

    Isn't it great how you inspired him by asking for his help, and now he's figured out that he needs to do something too?

(My DH also lost weight after I lost my first 40 lbs - he said I was looking hot and he didn't want some hotter guys running after me, LOL! I figure whatever it takes!)

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TKLBRIDGET 4/2/2013 7:17PM

    wonderful blog and wonderful hubby! So happy for both of you!
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AMARILYNH 4/2/2013 6:51PM

    What a blessing to read!! And it gives encouragement to those of us whose DHs are not quite there yet - with love and patience maybe we'll achieve this level of success!!

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BARHAAS 4/2/2013 6:00PM

    This is so inspiring! What great teamwork in something that is so important. Good for you in your good communication and for your DH for responding so lovingly and then so constructively!. Kuddos to you both! emoticon emoticon

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POPSY190 4/2/2013 4:37PM

    That's true love. Wonderful to see a Kiwi on here with such an inspirational and rewarding experience. emoticon Kia Kaha.

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SPEEDY143 4/2/2013 4:22PM

    Sweet emoticon yep, those DHs can really make a difference when we Spark long enough to inspire change. Mine didn't need to lose any weight but he sure eats differently now and has learned to enjoy it emoticon emoticon on both of your success emoticon

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SUECHRIS50 4/2/2013 3:58PM

    Love this blog!what is a pinkie bar?are biscuits like cookies?I have cut back slowly on salt for my husband to the point he hardly misses it!You always keep me looking forward to your blogs!!

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DLDMIL 4/2/2013 3:42PM

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LYNNWILK2 4/2/2013 3:42PM

    This is a great blog, I've read two other blogs today from this team where one member of a relationship is making changes and trying to find what will work for them and not having such a gentle and encouraging responses.
Your husband, your relationship and your communication of what you need is truly inspiring and KUDDOS on the wonderful husband!

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BURNEDEVE 4/2/2013 3:40PM

    This really made my heart pitter patter with joy! What a wonderful inspiration you are! And great for your hubby! I've been doing the same things with my husband, and imagine my surprise when he committed to walking 4 miles every day.

Thanks for posting this!

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LITTLERLINDA 4/2/2013 3:25PM

    That is awesome! I am so happy for you both! It gives me inspiration that I should keep going not only for myself but to hopefully help my husband indirectly! Thank you! emoticon

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