Have you noticed that it's so refreshing to find out we're not alone in all of our imperfections? Now don't get me wrong - I don't mean that in a bad way. It helps us to stop and take a deep breath, and to give ourselves permission to be a friend to ourselves and to say, "You're not alone. I understand." I was getting ready to write and post my Loving Yourself blog today, when I saw a note from my dear Spark Friend, STEELKICKIN. This prompted me to drop on in to say Hi. I noticed there was a blog written yesterday, and so I clicked on it and started to read:
"If you were able to peel back the layers of your life, disrobing the learned behaviors and shaped beliefs that you have carried with you throughout your life, would you do it? Who are you behind closed doors, when no one is speaking, when no one is listening, when no one is watching? What is your innermost dialogue that seems to be speaking with every heart beat, your true definition, your real purpose, of your life here on this earth? "
It was like I'd been exposed - down to my very being. The tears welled up in my eyes, as her words touched my very being.
"If you could cast off the garbage that your heart has carried over the last few years, would it be liberating, freeing? Most of the time, you do not like what you see when you look in your soul's mirror. Flawed. Imperfect. Handicapped. Broken. But it is in the mess of you that you will find your truth. You know this to be true. So why do you hesitate? You know it is within this kaleidoscope of pain, triumphs, successes and failures that your true definition lies."
Oh my gosh, she hit the nail right on the head! These words echoed what I know to be true to my very core. It takes great courage and perseverance to look in that mirror and be confronted with what we don't like about ourselves. Whether it's the mirror on the wall, or the mirror of our soul, the instinct is to turn away, and to ignore the tsunami of emotions that come flooding over us out of the blue, when just a moment ago all seemed so fine - so calm. It is necessary that we summon forth, right in that very moment, everything we have within us. It is here that we can learn the most about what we are made of. There is a "present" in that very moment if we allow ourselves to look closely at it, and to be open to our thoughts and emotions of it all. This was indeed one of these moments.
It is our very being that is pushing us forward, but only from the place of love, much like our mother's guiding hand as we took those very first steps. Guiding us towards the truth, and finding it within us so that we can then experience it.
"Her hands held me gently from the day I took my first breath.
Her hands helped to guide me as I took my first step.
Her hands held me close when the tears would start to fall.
Her hands were quick to show me that she would take care of it all."
It is about the balance of the yin and yang - the negative and the positive in ourselves and our lives - the states of love within us and around us. They will always be there - for that is what life is - the sum of the negative and the positive experiences of our everyday lives. Every experience contains all of the aspects of love - even the negative ones.
When you stop to think about it, all that we feel and experience is affected by one thing and one thing only - our emotions, or how we feel about it. We can use the techniques we are learning to guide ourselves toward the positive, and to see it. In the end, it is all about just love and loving.
Today I once again challenge you, as I am challenging myself, to bravely stand in front of that mirror - be it the physical one or the emotional one - and allow all to fall to the floor, and echoing Michelle's words, "Expose the true you, and embrace yourself with the same encouragement and compassion you claim to have for others".
I urge you to go and stop in to say Hi to Michelle, and to read her powerful blog in all its entirety. You can find it here:
Thank you, Michelle for being my North Star, and guiding me with your shining light . . . and allowing me to remember and feel love today.
Thanks for stopping by!