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Quiet please!

Tuesday, April 02, 2013

Have you ever been balled out at the library? Well I was today. I was speaking to the head of the Genealogy section of the libary and a gentleman came up and stood next to us. He waited a short time and then asked if we were almost done talking. He told us in a very accusing way that libraries are for reading and that we were being loud. Sure, the librarian and I were guilty of talking, but he was explaining about some of the things I could/should be using in my research.

I think the thing that really bothered me was the way the man spoke to us. If he had said something like "I'm sorry but I'm trying to read and your talking is bothering me" I would have felt bad and would have apologized. As it was, I just stood with my mouth open in surprise. I was so taken back that I ended up leaving before doing any research

Here' my point. Today's experience made me aware of how powerful words are. Sometimes it is not so much 'what' you say as much as 'how' you say it. I'm sure that I need to be more careful about 'how' I say things at times. We probably all could.

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  • SAMI199
    Dang- I'm sorry you were on the receiving end of a grumpy-pants.They sure know how to rain on any parade.

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    1814 days ago
    I have learned in life not to take things so personally . I will bet something else was bothering him and you were the first person to take it out on.
    Doesn't he know how libraries have changed and I was in one where they were playing music like a " coffee house".
    Words are like swords they cut to the bone. emoticon

    1815 days ago
    I'm a librarian and I have to agree he was rude.
    I've had to handle similar situations before and always put the blame on myself the try to find a way to re-locate the reader or the researcher so that both parties can get what they need.
    Sometimes it's a juggling act, esp. if we also have kids in our little library.
    You didn't do anything wrong, maybe he was having a bad day and just took it out on the two of you.
    I love Genealogy, good luck with your research.
    1815 days ago
    He sounds rude. Words are so very important. Thanks for the reminder.
    1815 days ago
    He was rude. And words to have a lot of power to hurt, especially with the tone of voice added. Hope you can do your research tomorrow.
    1815 days ago
  • LUVS2BIKE101
    You made a great point!
    In today's modern society, most libraries experience acceptable levels of chat, especially when there is research involved and the need of guidance from a librarian. Many libraries have "quiet" sections for those patrons who want a silent atmosphere. Unless there is a sign designating "quiet zone", chat is acceptable.

    1815 days ago
    Well, he was just rude. If it was that awful, he could have moved away. I'm sure the librarian didn't need a lecture on library etiquette. Either way, I do appreciate your point about being mindful of our words. Most importantly, the words we speak to our self can keep us motivated and positive.

    Healthy wishes!
    1815 days ago
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