Tuesday, April 02, 2013
Have you ever been balled out at the library? Well I was today. I was speaking to the head of the Genealogy section of the libary and a gentleman came up and stood next to us. He waited a short time and then asked if we were almost done talking. He told us in a very accusing way that libraries are for reading and that we were being loud. Sure, the librarian and I were guilty of talking, but he was explaining about some of the things I could/should be using in my research.
I think the thing that really bothered me was the way the man spoke to us. If he had said something like "I'm sorry but I'm trying to read and your talking is bothering me" I would have felt bad and would have apologized. As it was, I just stood with my mouth open in surprise. I was so taken back that I ended up leaving before doing any research
Here' my point. Today's experience made me aware of how powerful words are. Sometimes it is not so much 'what' you say as much as 'how' you say it. I'm sure that I need to be more careful about 'how' I say things at times. We probably all could.