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STOP - YES, stop thinking in terms of self-discipline and control

Monday, April 01, 2013

Shocking thoughts - can you imagine telling yourself to STOP exercising self discipline and self control??? This was one of the messages from the meditations that I have been doing. I have been struggling to get my head wrapped around those ideas but the more I thought, the more it started to make SENSE. Now, I need to write about it and see if I can articulate how it makes sense to me and FOR me.

So often we struggle, hate ourselves, beat ourselves up, and otherwise get pretty negative and judgmental toward ourselves especially with regard to eating and exercise. The result of those negative thoughts and actions is pretty immediate and long lasting - we start to crave unhealthy foods, to feel like failures, to give up. We may binge, or skip our exercise plans, or just feel miserable. How does THAT help us? It doesn't. Since that is not productive, and doing the same things we have been doing does NOT produce the results we want, maybe it is time to make some changes and see how THEY work.

What are these drastic changes that are suggested? They suggest focusing on creating an environment that makes it EASY, NATURAL, and FUN to make healthy choices of food, exercise (lets call it PLAY or FUN though instead of exercise), and EASY instead of HARD.

The question then becomes HOW do we do this AND still have results that we want?

The trick is to have healthy food easily available - visible - attractive - delicious.

Also to make the meals we eat a part of a complete experience - enjoying and savoring our food, slowly chewing, tasting, smelling, and experiencing our flavors, colors, textures, etc. Sitting at the dinner table, setting the table, using a tablecloth or placemats that are attractive, lighting candle(s), playing music, enjoying the company and fellowship of others we love and care about. In general making the EXPERIENCE of food a complete sensual, enjoyable experience - not a hurried, grab it and go experience.

The same is true of exercise - a date to walk with a friend or swim with others has the same EXERCISE benefits of EXERCISE but count as FUN, pleasure. Find ways to have FUN to RELAX.

Make your life a whole cohesive environment that makes us WANT to make healthy choices both of food and exercise.

Rest, meditation, and relaxation are all integral parts of a healthy life and when all of it comes NATURALLY and EASILY it CAN BE FUN. We don't have to whip ourselves into making appropriate choices - we do it because it is comfortable and easy to do.

I have really enjoyed the meditations and think they will enrich my life.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CRAFTSFAN1 4/5/2013 8:29PM

    Here we go again. You made me rethink things over. We have to create our success. And for success we have to include our journey. Are we succeeding in making it a torture experience or an enjoyable one.
Thank you NANCYPAT1, as always, you aimed to the target. emoticon

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JILL313 4/1/2013 11:44PM

    emoticon Hi Nancy, You summed it all up so perfectly. Thank you for making it clearer to me. I appreciate your sending me the invite for the wonderful meditations. I really enjoy my daily meditations. Great and interesting Blog, as usual. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CHIRPGIRL 4/1/2013 10:37PM

    Wonderful thoughts and I thank you or sharing them. I particularly like the idea of making mealtimes more meaningful. emoticon

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DJSQUISHIE 4/1/2013 10:03PM


Thanks for sharing this, I really enjoyed reading it!

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CINDYAST 4/1/2013 9:54PM

    Love this blog! Thanks for putting into words what I needed to hear!

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LINDA! 4/1/2013 8:31PM

    This is a healthy way to look at things.

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CAPECODLIGHT 4/1/2013 2:48PM

    I've been reading lately about mindful eating, and what you wrote definitely dovetails. It definitely is helping me make the changes to maintain a healthy life style.

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IOWAGRAMMA 4/1/2013 2:18PM

    Sounds like a really great plan, Nancy. I recently read something along those same lines. Basically it was saying that we need to work on stopping our efforts to always control things, but rather MANAGE them. In other words, almost exactly what you've said above! I like it!

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ASTRA58 4/1/2013 1:46PM

    That is a great way to look at things!

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