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Sunday, March 31, 2013

I got up this morning with my back aching. I guess, walking the girls was a bit too much yesterday. We didn't walk today. I listened to myself and rested this am.

There was some fighting between my dad and his wife over me. I found out about it late yesterday. Seems his wife has a real problem with my dietary restrictions. I have been a vegetarian for over 19 years. The last meal my mom cooked for me was for my birthday in 1995, and it was vegetarian. My dad and his current wife have been together for a bit over 10 years.

I noticed the last two times we were invited to their house there wasn't anything veggie for me to eat. Well it came out yesterday that she will "not cook too meals" nor will she change what she likes to have for my benefit (she buts bacon and/or bacon grease in everything she eats). She told my dad I had to bring my own food. Needless to say I was a bit PO'ed.

I get a call this am that my dad did get me some soy chicken and micro veggies, please just bring salad. I get there and my dad is in the kitchen cooking, his wife is in the living room not speaking to either of us. He has a pint of home made potato salad set aside for me without bacon. He made me veggie gravy (vegetable soup broth, corn flour, and seasonings) and has a bag of broccoli and cauliflower ready to cook. He had gone out last night and gotten me a meal while she was sleeping.

I do so love my dad and he still takes wonderful care of me. I hate the fact that this causes him strife. He tells me not to worry or just to "hush myself" but it still hurts.

Anyway, there was a very small turn out - just me, hubby, boy child, two uncles, and a cousin. Normally that would be disappointing but instead we had some time to talk and share. Got to hear a bunch of old war stories from my uncle (MP in Vietnam). We talked about things that the "wife" hates which sent her to another room. I was so sad (not). It was fun and I felt like I got to bond with my uncle in a way we hadn't been able to before. So I ended up feeling pretty good on the day.

I'm home and resting my back. I have to go back to work tomorrow but I should be ok. Just need to keep the activities light. I can do that.

Here is hoping everyone had a good day!
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    Kudos for your Dad, I think your step-mom doesn't deserves such nice guy like him. For your Dad's sake just be civil with your his wife. I hope he doesn't come to a point where he has to choose between her and you.. God Bless you dear,

    1789 days ago
    Your dad is such a good guy! And, very cool that you got to bond with your uncle. I am sorry she has been so difficult-some people are just tricky.

    Hope your back is feeling better soon!
    1789 days ago
  • ANDY_54
    Oh geez, yay for Dad! He's a keeper. Have no words of wisom for the step-mom except to say she must be very insecure. I'm glad an okay time was had, though.
    1789 days ago
    Dad's are awesome aren't they.
    1790 days ago
    Glad your dad understands you. I wonder why your step mom is so close minded? It isn't as if being vegetarian is really that odd these days. Wonder if she feels threatened by you? Keep sparkling and doing your thing. She will come around or she won't, but it will be her loss not yours!

    Hope your back feels better!
    1790 days ago
    Stepparents can be a blessing or a constant source of strife. Sorry you got a bad one. Dad knows what's going on, so good for him. Take care! emoticon
    1790 days ago
    Your dad is wonderful! Glad you got a chance to talk with your uncle. That is wonderful. Too bad about your dad's wife being like that.
    1790 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    I'm sorry your dad has to be in the middle of all this. I don't understand why people act that way. I'm sure you don't expect her to cook two meals or to leave meat out of everything, but one or two side dishes plus whatever dish you bring for everyone would probably be enough. It sounds like she had a full on grown-woman pout going on. I don't get why she thinks it's up to her. Like you said, you've been a vegetarian for more years than you've known her so it's not about her.

    I hope working today is ok on your back.
    1790 days ago
    sorry you have to deal with that .... your dad is a gem! emoticon
    1790 days ago
    Oh no, Im sorry you have had to deal with the stress (step mother) yesterday. It should have been a great day to celebrate. At least you got to enjoy your family though. It's sad though that your father is stuck in the middle of this. Sounds like she might be a little jealous of your relationship. From the sounds of it, looks like he is fully aware. Keep your chin up sweetie. And don't overdo it today.
    1790 days ago
    I literally feel for your dad being raised in such a toxic environment and having stepchildren myself who still have a mom who puts them in that sort of a situation any time she can. It is sad all the way around. So nice that you and your dad have a special relationship and that he stands up to his wife even knowing the backlash it causes. Hugs to you and he both sweetie! emoticon
    1790 days ago
    That was so wonderful of your Dad to make the effort when his wife was really being ugly UGLY U-G-L-Y! The ultimate bottomline? SHE is the loser. You are a wonderful person, and it's her loss not to spend time with you. Happy you got to enjoy the rest of the f=visit with your family. How could you DAD stand to have bacon and bacon grease in his food???? I wouldn't be able to tolerate it!

    Sorry to hear about your back. Hope the rest helps heal it.

    1790 days ago
    Dude, old skool bacon dunk....scares me now, hahahaha....I'm glad ya listened to yer bod and rested yer back.....miss my daddy like mad...he used ta come ta supper evey Easter and Thanksgiving...some xmas's....sigh....gah....puts smile back on....keep on healin doll, heatin pad!

    1790 days ago
    I'm glad your dad did the right thing . I wouldn't care about the bitch if I was you. I wish I could bring my own food to most parties emoticon . you could even plan to cook with your dad and have fun together next time emoticon . better not eat a food made with negative feelings
    1790 days ago
    It is too bad that your step mother has such problems, but they are her problems. I feel for your dad, but he also has choices here as well. I'm glad you had the chance to have a good time with family.
    1790 days ago
    OMG bacon grease in everything - how is she still alive? Good for you and your dad sticking together.
    1791 days ago
  • APED7969
    So is that like having an evil stepmother even though you're a grown woman? I'm sorry to hear she can't make some minor changes to accommodate you but that is really lovely to hear your dad makes such an effort. Hope your back continues to mend!
    1791 days ago
    Sorry your back is still giving you a pain. And your dad's wife, even a worse pain.
    It does hurt . . . both you and your dad. It shows her total lack of respect for both of you.

    The best thing you can do is just continue to be the sweet person that you are . . . heaping coals of kindness, which will bless you and your dad.

    What a bad egg! emoticon

    1791 days ago
    I liked that your Dad spoke up for you. Maybe his wife is jealous of you though that is no excuse for her behavior. Do what is right for you, you can't please everyone and there is always going to be someone who will complain.
    1791 days ago
    your dad is really a sweety ur very lucky
    1791 days ago
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