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Friday, March 29, 2013

My brother found out a little over a month ago that his kidneys are failing. Our mother had kidney disease so our first thought was he had it too. He went to a specialist and had test done that showed that was not the case. The dr told him he thought the failure was caused by an infection and that they could treat him with strong antibiotics but would have to do a biopsy first to make sure. The biopsy shows that the only treatment for him would be eventual dialysis. He does not have kidney disease but his kidneys are very damaged from years of high blood pressure. My brother is very adamant that he will not do dialysis. After seeing everything our mother went through for 2 1/2 years having dialysis I can't say I blame him. I have in fact said I don't think I would ever do that if my kidneys should fail. A truly sad thing is when my brother's blood work started showing abnormal levels almost 2 years ago his family dr diagnosed him with gout even though he had no symptoms of gout. The nephrologist said the medication the family dr put my brother on was very hard on kidneys. He said the medicine more than likely exacerbated the failure of his kidneys. Right now he is on a strict diet to try to slow the failure.

I lost my Dad in 2006, my Mom in 2009 and an aunt who was like another mom in 2011. I am not ready to think about losing my brother. When I am depressed my first instinct is to turn to food. That is how I gained the 29 pounds back. I am trying hard to walk and do other things to keep from turning to food. It is so hard to be 2,000 miles from my brother not knowing how much longer we will have him. I pray God will slow his kidney failure and allow us to have him with us for as long as possible.
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    Just now reading this Martha, but I'm in agreement with you that God will slow your brother's process down - God can and will do it if we believe my friend.

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    1781 days ago
    This is such sad news, I'm sorry I didn't see it before I sent the Easter wishes. I've lost both parents, a sister and many relatives. It doesn't prepare you for the inevitable, because your reaction is based on your relationship with the person. I will pray for you and your brother. I am sooo sorry the doctor made such a grievous error in diagnosis and did do follow up checks for the effect of the meds on his kidneys.
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    1784 days ago
    im so very sorry to hear your bad news i will pray for your brother that god will heal him keep the faith and believe that he can be healed ;happy easter too ((((HUGS))))
    1785 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear this sad news! I will send prayers for your brother and his family. I will also pray that the Dr. can slow the process of this disease!
    1785 days ago
  • RIXEY-
    so sorry.
    1786 days ago
    My heart goes out to you, dear friend. Just one such loss is devastating, and you've experienced three in just a few years. Now your brother's health, and his decision about what he's NOT going to do, must weigh very heavily on you. But it sounds as if he's doing what he can with diet to ease stress on his kidneys, and we can pray for his health and for healing.

    It's understandable that our first thought under stress is to turn to things we know give us comfort, but you know that the comfort food brings also brings other problems. All food is certainly not bad, and since it does nourish as well as comfort, perhaps you can find something to cook that both brings comfort and fits with how you're trying to nourish yourself now?

    I'll be thinking of you in this, Martha. If it's not intrusive, would you please keep us posted? I know I'm not the only one concerned for you.

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    Comment edited on: 3/30/2013 9:06:52 AM
    My heartfelt prayers for you and your family members in light of the news that you have shared. May you find peace in the midst of the sadness, my friend.

    1786 days ago
  • FLOB13
    I am so very sorry for you the thought of your losses Made me cry, I will say a prayer for your brother and you, and the family. I do believe in the power of prayers.

    1786 days ago
    Sorry to hear this! Stay strong and keep yourself healthy - don't turn to food for comfort. You need to be your own best friend here and do everything you can to make the best food choices for your own health so you can be strong for your brother. (And be a good role model). Maybe your healthy choices will rub off on him even though he lives so far away. Can you get him to join sparkpeople? It is such a positive supportive place - not just for weightloss but any goal or challenge that one wants to meet. Keep us informed.
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    1786 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    So sorry to hear about you Brother. May the diet work so he won't need to go on Kidney Dialysis. Have there been any mentioned about weather a Kidney Transplant would work for Him? You might check in to that possiblity. I hope things works out for Him. Let us know how He in doing please. God Blessings to Everyone. Have a Good Friday. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!
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    Comment edited on: 3/29/2013 11:56:27 PM
    Sorry to hear about your brother. It is so important to be aware of all the side effects of any medication you have to take. I found out when I had to have a mitral valve replacement in my heart, it was because of the chemotherapy and radiation they gave me for breast cancer. I hope his diet can reverse some of the damage and he will not have to go on dialysis. emoticon emoticon
    1786 days ago
    My heart goes out to you.
    My brother-in-law is in late stage kidney failure and does not dialysis. it's hard ot watch. But we must honor each other's choices and treasure every moment.
    1786 days ago
    I am so sorry, Martha. I am very familiar with dialysis as my mom endured it for nearly 3 years at the age of 84. I certainly will put you and your family in my prayers. emoticon
    1787 days ago
  • JANET552
    emoticon It is hard enough to hear the news but it is made worse by knowing the medical profession made things worse. I'm sending prayers your way.
    1787 days ago
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