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I could use advice.
Thursday, March 28, 2013
My original goal was to be slimmer by summer and although im going down i'm still not comfortable in "summer clothes." So it just feels really depressing to go another year feeling frustrated and like crap everytime I get dressed, and having to deal with being overheated because I cant wear shorts and a tank top. I just don't see in the next couple months that I can lose enough weight to be small enough to wear what I want. To top it off I have major stress lately. I am going from one freelance job onto two structured jobs (I havnt been offered the 2nd one yet but im 95% sure i'll get it). I think I may just polietely deny the second one if offered. I know it would help me with bills and expenses but I just don't know if I can handle the stress of it. Is it more stress to work two jobs or to not be as finanically stable? I know alot of people work two jobs (and more!) and i commend them for it, but it may not be for me. This should be a happy time, I got my dream job, I have amazing people in my life, and I am working toward my goals. I prayed that god would help me, and he did but now that i have this overwhelming sense of stress I feel that I am being selfish instead of being thankful for him answering my prayers. I really need to get back on track.. I know things will get better once I start working
Take the second job or no? I really need advice.
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Just read your blog and I currently work two jobs and have for a few years now. I was mainly earning money when I switched jobs to save my sanity, but had to take a $9/hr pay cut. To make ends meet for a while, I worked the 2nd job. Then my sons went to college and I tried to help them out when I could. I don't plan on doing this forever, just until a couple of my bills get paid. Then I'll use any extra money to save for a trip for my 25th wedding anniversary next year.
So you see, it does help sometimes, but if you can do without the income, just make good financial decisions with one job. I tell you, the 14-16 hr days to take a toll on you. Do what is best for you! Sometimes you have to be selfish. I did this year and now I focus on me! I feel so much better being able to actually workout when I want, instead of running from one job to another. I make better meal choices when I have more time too. Working 2 jobs, if you don't plan your meals, you grab quick food and then lbs come back. I say, If you can do without the extra income and make some cutbacks where you can, stick with one job and make yourself a priority!
I agree with JENSTRESS about the clothes. Everything will fall into place as you go. You are doing fantastic with your weight loss journey. Your significant other will love you no matter if you've lost 20 or 40 or 100 lbs. He loves YOU! Be proud of yourself for your accomplishments. I am. Good luck with your decision. Which ever way you go, just don't forget about YOU.
1240 days ago
Comment edited on: 4/2/2013 10:30:39 PM
How much do you need the income of the second job? If you can make ends meet without going into debt, then you should be fine with just the one job. If it keeps you sane, that might be a good idea.
As for the summer clothes, you need to relax. I didn't look at your page, so I can't remember what you weigh. However, they have "clamdiggers" and capri pants that would be cute if you don't feel comfortable wearing shorts. At least they aren't PANTS!!! And tank tops, please, ANYONE can wear a tank. You just have to be careful how they cut you. I don't know your build, but if you are thicker in the midsection (I'm thicker in the bum area) then just get a few loose fitting tanks, and be happy. You aren't trying to wear a bikini. Just take it easy. I'm sure there are smaller people, but there are also larger people, and they will be dressing to be comfortable. My mom is overweight and has a lot of midsection thickness. She wears capri pants and short sleeves. She will SOMETIMES wear a tank, but she doesn't like to, but that has to do with her age more than her size.
1245 days ago
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