Which is easier for you to remember – the bad, embarrassing, or painful things that happened this week, or the good things and happy times that happened this week? For some unknown reason, our brains seem to be able to remember bad things easier than it can the good things.
The focus and the movement in our lives are in usually one of two directions; we’re either moving away from pain or moving toward pleasure. Now you would think that we’d all voluntarily choose moving toward pleasure. However, remember earlier in this series that it was mentioned that negative thinking was much a more powerful energy that positive thinking? This is hard-wired into our brains from the very beginning of mankind – for our survival. So if your mind sorts and organizes your thoughts based on the emotional impact of the thoughts on you, it helps you to see why the negative thoughts seem to be right there in the forefront.
Whether or not you realize it, you are surrounded by this energy all day, and you are trying to move away from the pain. How many of your friends, co-workers, family talk about all of their problems? What are we bombarded by from the media and the news? Is it about the good things that are happening in our city and in the world? Are you starting to get the picture?
How do you organize your kitchen pantry? You place the things you use most in the front, and near where you use them, and can easily grab them. That’s the same way your mind organizes and stores its thoughts. When you open the pantry you see what is in the front first, and sometimes you forget that you have that can of tomato sauce way in the back that you need right now. You do one of two things – search for it or run to the store to buy it. So as you can see organization makes a difference. Since you are bombarded with so much negativity, it’s right there in the front ready to be dispensed.
As I stated in yesterday’s blog, we are going now to “consciously” make the effort to shift into a new paradigm of thinking. Since the mind cannot focus on two things at the same time, we are going to systematically re-arrange and organize our pantry. We have begun this by stopping our negative thinking in its tracks and letting go of our negative thoughts, and now will begin to train our focus on the positive. As you begin to see more of the positive things in your life, the negatives will come into your awareness less.
Here is the practical exercise for this phase:
At the end of each day, take a piece of paper and make two columns. On the left side, write down all the things that happened that day that you are “grateful” for. On the right side, write down one or two “challenges” that you faced today, and the value of each.
This works because as you sort through the day’s experiences, you will be focusing on looking for the positive things that happened, and making them the priority. As your focus is concentrated and funneled in this direction you’ll be forming a new habit, just as we did with the techniques to stop our negative thoughts. As your mind becomes attuned to this new focus, it will automatically begin to change the way you experience your day because it now is making its list of the good things for you to write at the end of your day.
“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that dis-empowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” ~ Anthony Robbins
I leave you with this one final note. Changing your thoughts won’t work unless you believe. If you’ve been struggling to change your life then this might well be the key. What we believe creates the context for what we think. It adds fuel to the power of thought and allows thought to slip into a natural effortless and creative flow. In other words, thought is cut short if belief in the thought doesn’t carry it deeper than the brain, into the heart and soul. It’s there that deep change starts to happen.
“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
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