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Loving Yourself: Positive Shift

Wednesday, March 27, 2013


Which is easier for you to remember – the bad, embarrassing, or painful things that happened this week, or the good things and happy times that happened this week? For some unknown reason, our brains seem to be able to remember bad things easier than it can the good things.

The focus and the movement in our lives are in usually one of two directions; we’re either moving away from pain or moving toward pleasure. Now you would think that we’d all voluntarily choose moving toward pleasure. However, remember earlier in this series that it was mentioned that negative thinking was much a more powerful energy that positive thinking? This is hard-wired into our brains from the very beginning of mankind – for our survival. So if your mind sorts and organizes your thoughts based on the emotional impact of the thoughts on you, it helps you to see why the negative thoughts seem to be right there in the forefront.

Whether or not you realize it, you are surrounded by this energy all day, and you are trying to move away from the pain. How many of your friends, co-workers, family talk about all of their problems? What are we bombarded by from the media and the news? Is it about the good things that are happening in our city and in the world? Are you starting to get the picture?

How do you organize your kitchen pantry? You place the things you use most in the front, and near where you use them, and can easily grab them. That’s the same way your mind organizes and stores its thoughts. When you open the pantry you see what is in the front first, and sometimes you forget that you have that can of tomato sauce way in the back that you need right now. You do one of two things – search for it or run to the store to buy it. So as you can see organization makes a difference. Since you are bombarded with so much negativity, it’s right there in the front ready to be dispensed.

As I stated in yesterday’s blog, we are going now to “consciously” make the effort to shift into a new paradigm of thinking. Since the mind cannot focus on two things at the same time, we are going to systematically re-arrange and organize our pantry. We have begun this by stopping our negative thinking in its tracks and letting go of our negative thoughts, and now will begin to train our focus on the positive. As you begin to see more of the positive things in your life, the negatives will come into your awareness less.

Here is the practical exercise for this phase:

At the end of each day, take a piece of paper and make two columns. On the left side, write down all the things that happened that day that you are “grateful” for. On the right side, write down one or two “challenges” that you faced today, and the value of each.
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This works because as you sort through the day’s experiences, you will be focusing on looking for the positive things that happened, and making them the priority. As your focus is concentrated and funneled in this direction you’ll be forming a new habit, just as we did with the techniques to stop our negative thoughts. As your mind becomes attuned to this new focus, it will automatically begin to change the way you experience your day because it now is making its list of the good things for you to write at the end of your day.


“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that dis-empowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” ~ Anthony Robbins

I leave you with this one final note. Changing your thoughts won’t work unless you believe. If you’ve been struggling to change your life then this might well be the key. What we believe creates the context for what we think. It adds fuel to the power of thought and allows thought to slip into a natural effortless and creative flow. In other words, thought is cut short if belief in the thought doesn’t carry it deeper than the brain, into the heart and soul. It’s there that deep change starts to happen.


“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

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PURRRPY 4/2/2013 3:04PM

    Wow - I SO NEEDED TO HEAR THIS. The last month I have been prayerfully and carefully moving towards peeling the layers and discovering me. Today is the first REAL day I am so aware of what I am doing, eating and feeling and at moments I want to RUN away.

Thank-you for the reminder I AM NOT ALONE!! Keep the spark shining - You are my angel today!!

Purrrpy

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KESTRUNK 4/2/2013 11:01AM

  Thank you so much for your insight! I am excited to go back and read the others. I usually have a hard time focusing on "challenges" rather than "problems". Thank you for the great idea about 2 columns - I am setting some time aside at the end of today to try it.

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PATKEEF1 3/31/2013 8:42PM

    This is so true. My own mother told me after I was a grown woman that she was going to name me Patricia, but when she saw me, I was too red wrinkled and ugly, so she called me Patsy. This is the reason when people call me Patsy I tell them don't call me that, I'm Pat,and yes I am lovsble. For so long I was Patsy and unlovable. Yes love must start with ourselves. Thank You for that reminder. I hope you will call me friend and look forward to getting to know you.

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NPA4LOSS 3/31/2013 10:01AM

    Since becoming a Spark so much of my positive thoughts stay at the forefront of my brain. I do things for myself as before it was always others first. It makes such a difference in what you can do for others as you are taking care of you. emoticon

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BECCABOO127 3/30/2013 11:23PM

    Wonderful!

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COMPUCATHY 3/30/2013 9:33PM

    Today I read a quote that said only I can write my thoughts. It was an aha for me...that I have no one to blame but myself for any negative thoughts that I entertain. We can do this! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon

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ANGELBELIEVER 3/30/2013 7:28PM

    I am learning so much from your blogs. Talk about inspirational. I have subscribed to your blogs now so I won't miss reading anything you write. I used to work in the mental health field but it never hurts to be reminded about what you write about. It's like a refresher course. emoticon

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JESSICABOOTY 3/30/2013 6:22PM

    Sharon, I get excited when I see you have posted a new blog. Thank you for all the information! emoticon

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CELIAMINER 3/30/2013 7:32AM

    You write great blogs!

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JAXMOMMY 3/29/2013 2:50PM

    Sharon-- Once the thought entered my head the other day I read more intellect and just good old fashioned good sense in each blog.... Seriously thinking you should compile your blogs into a book! We all could benefit! You've done the hard work of researching and giving vredit and it is all well said and just well, good! Thanks for this one. As you know I am a fan of writing down your gratitudes each day! Thanks for sharing!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 3/28/2013 9:41PM

    Another awesome blog. Counting my blessings is helping me to stay focused on the positives. I'm going to try the two column list & will let you know how it works for me.

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CMRAND54 3/28/2013 7:09PM

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One of the things I like about SP is making my daily status update a positive thought about what happened during the day. Thinking of all the positives to chose the best one to share is helpful to me.

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JADOMB 3/28/2013 2:10PM

    There is much truth in this. As a Christian, God helps me focus on the positives and fight away the negatives. It's only when I try to do things on my own that I sometimes get lost in the negatives. That is why I try so hard to Keep the Faith.

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KIMCOLLINGS 3/28/2013 12:19PM

    Terrific exercise. I'm going to start doing that. I really like the Anthony Robbins quote about beliefs and your description below it too. I have a really difficult, stuck belief that I know is silly, but I just haven't been able to get past it and it really affects my life. I think I'll start writing down the reasons why I should change my belief. The reasons why what feels threatening really isn't. I'm going to start telling myself why this belief isn't true for most others and therefore doesn't have to be for me. Cross your fingers :) Wonderful blog!

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MANDELOVICH 3/28/2013 11:43AM

    Wow, thank you for sharing this exercise! I'm going to subscribe to your blogs as I really want to change how I think and feel about myself!

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JANEMARIE77 3/28/2013 8:40AM

    great blog thanks i just made a post card for my wall with oprah's quote love it

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SAMI199 3/28/2013 8:05AM

    I'm in-great idea! I BELIEVE !

Thanks!

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COCK-ROBIN 3/28/2013 1:22AM

    A beautiful post!

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COCK-ROBIN 3/28/2013 1:22AM

    A beautiful post!

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DUXGRL1 3/27/2013 9:12PM

    I will definitely try this today!

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1CRAZYDOG 3/27/2013 8:47PM

  Yes! The gratitude journal I have kept helps immensely and now I understand a little bit about why. Because it put that positive thought in the front of the pantry instead of hidden and forgotten in the back! Makes perfect sense.

HUGS

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MRSBETH99 3/27/2013 8:34PM

    I love the mental discipline of focusing on the positives! Thanks for sharing!

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IAMTOLOSE 3/27/2013 8:15PM

    Something for us all to remember to do! Thank you.

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ROSES17 3/27/2013 7:52PM

    Great job and well put.

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JACKIE542 3/27/2013 7:08PM

    I think I am going to do this. emoticon

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2HAMSDIET 3/27/2013 7:07PM

    I once heard that you have to have ten positive comments to balance one bad. emoticon emoticon

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UZA77777 3/27/2013 6:45PM

    Another fantastic blog entry!

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CATHWREN 3/27/2013 6:33PM

    Excellent blog. I like your experiment and will try it tonight.

Thanks for posting.

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