Wednesday, March 27, 2013
I wasn't sure what to call this entry today, as my mind is all over the place. So here is an attempt to bring it back to one spot and focus. I am currently working on opening a small take out restaurant with my mother and daughter in law and hubby along with setting up my future to accomplish my goals and dreams and desires. As I work late into the nights and wake up tired these days, I find it is up to me to ensure I am maintaining balance and a clear vision along with a real positive perspective. However, lately I find it has been awfully easy to slip into the cycle of griping and complaining and making myself miserable. After about a month of cutting off the folks I know who are "chronic complainers", I fell into a well laid trap this weekend, which continued all the way to yesterday and has even affected my mood today.
You see I am convinced that there are those people, who, learn of the situation their choices have placed them in, continue to allow themselves to remain in said situation and then spend a whole lifetime cultivating this victim persona. "Poor me", they say, "why me?" they ask no one in particular because they really do not want an answer, and should you dear to offer them one, or a way out or even a more positive view, then you are a hypocrite, pretender and any other variation of that word because your life is clearly no better.
I sat for a really long time last night, thinking about these kinds of people, the ones who make everything about themselves, the ones who revel in their hurts and pains and victim-hood, and I realize one thing - dealing with them takes a serious toll on one's emotional and spiritual health. To be around these people, an enlightened( or transformative) soul would need to be so enveloped in love and light, that their negative presence will not overshadow and eventually overwhelm these sorts.
I guess at the end of the day if people(including close friends and relatives) just do not add to your life, then the only thing they are actually doing is subtracting. And take special care, because they are pretty good at taking the most valuable things from you, peace, joy, love, right living-all the divinity one has cultivated and leave instead a void spiralling down to the darkest places of our subconscious, which leaves us feeling empty and at the same time full of resentment.