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What makes you choose "excellent"

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

I asked this on one of the team forums and was thinking it is also fitting for a blog entry.

With spark coach one of the elements is tracking how you did each day and giving yourself either a 1 for poor through to a 5 for excellent.

I've noticed that even when I've met all my goals I'm still giving myself a 3 or 4 because

* I haven't done perfectly!
* There is always going to be more I could do; more exercise; healthier food

Lately a few people have pointed out how I don't know how to go easy on myself; and thinking about even the excellence check may sound silly in a way and yet I realised last night how much it connects to my general attitude.

The other day I ate fairly well, was within my calorie range and had said no to a piece of birthday cake offered at work for a colleagues birthday. I'd walked more than I'd set as a goal and done stretching as well and yet I still couldn't give myself an "excellent". It made me wonder, what would it take? and why it was so hard

I'm not sure of the answer yet; I do know I need to find ways to stop being so hard on myself and that even in things like this being aware helps me know some of the work I need to get done.

This is all such a mental challenge for me in so many respects; what I eat and the exercise I do definitely plays a role but so does my thinking!
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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 4/1/2013 9:57PM

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...on the wonderful insights and the accomplishments!!

“Don't compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to the person you were yesterday.”

Don't know who said that, but I liked it enough to share it with you!

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NANCYPAT1 3/27/2013 6:44PM

    This is a BIG deal. You will find that you have a greater chance of success and maintaining that success when you learn to LOVE yourself enough to be a little kinder. Your reported successes stood out to me as being strong signs of the progress you have already made. You are doing pretty well. Give yourself an A+ for a change and you will still be motivated and successful EVEN if you are kind to YOU.

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SUSIE4LYF 3/27/2013 9:20AM

    I agree with Grandmababa that we are harder on ourselves than the people we surround ourselves with everyday. I have found that I am probably my own worst enemy when it comes to self love and self acceptance.

It certainly sounds like you have a good insight as to how to change this mind set to help you accomplish your goals. Always keep in mind that there are endless possibilities of doing something better, smarter, or bigger but ultimately it's the small steps that count and as long as your feet are pointed in the right direction - the important thing is that you are moving towards your goal.

Good luck and have a very blessed week!

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GRANDMABABA 3/27/2013 4:57AM

    I think we are often our harshest critics. I never grade myself very high. I am trying to see myself as The Lord does. Some days are better tan others. Thanks for sharing.

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