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Getting Past Regret - Tales from 100# Down


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Monday, March 25, 2013

I spent a lot of years sitting on my rear and eating to excess. I can't go back in a time machine and undo that. Do I have regrets? Of course I do. I regret that my health had to suffer. I regret that my child had to hear the unkind remarks from school chums and friends about his "fat mama". I regret that I wasn't a healthier parent that could do more with her child. I regret that I wasn't the slim bride my husband met but I AM thankful he stood by me. I regret that I didn't learn more about nutrition and exercise. I regret that I wasted a lot of time sitting where the only activity was my hand feeding my face or using a remote control or mouse.

Regret can lead to depression and in some cases a stumbling block to progress on this journey. I want to talk a little about that today because someone reading this might just need to hear what I have to say. By no means is this everyone's story. This is just MY story and I share it with you hoping that it might help just ONE person.

I'm sure many people that watched me over the course of 3-1/2 decades thought I was oblivious to my obesity. How far from the truth could that be. Knowing one is obese and doing something to change it are two different things. Once I successfully began my journey and made significant progress (well over halfway there) I began to look back and think WHY? Why didn't I keep trying to lose weight? Why did I give up? Why didn't I exercise? Why did I hang out with people that encouraged bad eating? WHY? WHY? WHY?

Here is the thing... It's IN THE PAST. I can't go back. I can't undo it and who knows maybe some of the GOOD things in my life now are the sum of the things in the past. It's just what was "my life".

So how do I avoid living with regrets? I live in the NOW. I make each day count so tonight when I lay my head on the pillow I won't scroll through a list of regrets. A big key to doing this is setting priorities.

1) Do the things that matter MOST first.
2) Remember food is fuel for your body - find entertainment elsewhere.
3) Think of exercise as being necessary to your body just like using a machine is necessary to prevent rust.
4) FOCUS on the finish line - not the path already traveled.

There is potential for good in every day. There is hope in tomorrow. Leave your regrets on the doorstep of yesterday and move forward.

It gets better! It really does!

Press On!

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BARB5970 7/29/2013 11:15AM

    While going through some out emails, I came across this blog and found that I really relate to all those same regrets you listed. I truly read this blog at the right time. At age 50, there's no more time for regrets, what matters now is what I do next. Thanks so much for your wise words.

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ADAPTINGANNIE 7/26/2013 7:41AM

    Thanks for this post. Sometimes get mired in the regrets.....many years to look back upon. Will try to keep your guidelines in mind everyday.
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NERDLETTE 4/15/2013 9:16PM

    GREAT blog!! I REALLY need to remember your 4 points. Great job!

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KAB7801 4/10/2013 2:24PM

    No looking back

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TORTISE110 4/7/2013 7:08AM

    I love how we keep learning things in our lives at every age and stage. Some of the things I am learning at 65, others learned at 30! When I think of regret, I try to remember that I was learning other things then, and now is the time for...what I am learning now. Good blog! Keep learning!!

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KAB7801 4/4/2013 8:56AM

    I'm going to cross that finish line!

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TAISIAKAT 3/29/2013 4:48PM

    Thank you for your directness and honesty. I have enjoyed your blogs and it actually has help me understand that it is a lifestyle change, not just eating differently or adding more exercise, but a complete lifestyle change.

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NEWTINK 3/29/2013 7:15AM

    Wonderful insights .. you have come a long way emoticon

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FIRECOM 3/28/2013 1:36PM

    It is highly probable that all of us would like to turn the clock back. I am sad that I waited so long. Now I don't have many more years in the bank so I will do my best to live them the right way.

Thanks for a thought provoking blog.



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GRAMPIAN 3/28/2013 7:00AM

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EATVEGAN 3/27/2013 9:50PM

    Wonderful advice. Thanks for sharing your experience.

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JIBBIE49 3/27/2013 6:48PM

    Wonderful to see your blog featured in the Spark mail. emoticon

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LOLAINSC 3/27/2013 11:35AM

    I agree 100% but occasionally I self-indulge in deep regret and to remind myself what a stupid fool I was to get in this shape, just so I don't forget and backslide. She who forgets her stupid past is condemned to repeat it, speaking purely about myself there.
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FLORIDASUN 3/27/2013 8:43AM

    Fantastic blog...it's SO good when we are self aware. Hey...that's a RARE commodity in this tranquilized world. I bet 2 out of every 5 are on anti depressants, sleeping pills, anxiety pills etc. If only they would realize that 99% of their problems is the fake food that they eat and their poor bodies are rebelling against they would be so far ahead of the game.

It seems to be a big stumbling block that people take personal responsibility it's just so much easier to go to the doctor get a pill and expect them to fix us. Doesn't happen...I've seen too many of my friends put their destiny in doctor's hand...three of them are no longer with us. I love it when people are self aware...and then better yet...share their lessons with others.

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SISSIE21 3/27/2013 8:33AM

    Thank you for this blog. You can drown in regrets and it can take you right back to that sad, sad place of isolating and eating. Believe me, I know from personal experience. Love your 4 priorities! emoticon

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JAMER123 3/26/2013 11:18PM

    SO very true. The why's always seems to pop up!! You have written a great blog! Keep up the great work of reaching towards your goals.
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ROCKYCPA 3/26/2013 10:00PM

    Thanks for sharing!

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  What a wonderful blog from the heart......... emoticon

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KARRENLYNN 3/26/2013 4:50PM

    Very insightful! I'm glad your doing what's good for you and I'm rooting for your success!

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GRIZ1GIRL 3/26/2013 2:43PM

    You're doing it! Yay, YOU!

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CHARTHESTAR 3/26/2013 1:19PM

    your four reminders need to be on everyone's refrigeratior!

Do what needs to be done first... and that is TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!

GREAT POST.

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  I like your conclusion. It's so hopeful!!!! emoticon

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ILIKETOZUMBA 3/26/2013 11:40AM

    Awesome. I have a tendency to linger in the past a little too often with either regret or remembering the good times - and while there's certainly a place for remembering the past, we definitely shouldn't live in it! Thanks for the reminder that we should keep pressing onward! :)

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CICELY360 3/26/2013 10:33AM

  good blog

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SJKENT1 3/26/2013 9:57AM

    Keeping our eyes forward is life giving! thanks

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CEEMAY 3/26/2013 9:53AM

    I love this list! Thank you so much for sharing.

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/26/2013 9:50AM

    Very nice blog. Thank you!

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