I subscribe to something called the Positivity Blog. Most days I just look at the email quickly before I discard it but I held onto Friday's for some reason and I really need to read it today.
It was titled "3 Things to STOP Doing for Happiness and High Self-Esteem" and I need to really keep these things in the forefront of my mind.
1. Stop obeying inhuman standards.
Don't keep falling into the very common trap of trying to live up to perfect
standards. Accept that you are human and so are everyone else. Everything and everyone has flaws and things don't always go as planned. You can still improve things but they will never be perfect.
And realize that you won't be rejected if things or you aren't perfect. At least not
by reasonably well-balanced human beings, like most people actually are in
2. Stop comparing yourself to other people and what they have.
One very common and destructive daily habit is to constantly compare your life
and yourself to other people and their lives. You compare cars, houses, jobs, shoes,
money, relationships, social popularity and so on. And at the end of the day you pummel your self-esteem to the ground and you create a lot of negative feelings within.
3. Stop being a bad friend to yourself.
When you stumble or fall don't treat yourself like a bad friend or a jerk of a boss
would. Instead, ask yourself how your best friend/parent would support and help you in
this situation and do that.
I let yesterday get way out of control and I am beating myself up over it. I need to stop trying to be perfect (all or nothing), stop comparing my weight loss journey to others, and give myself the same break I give to my friends. It's just a bump in the road - not a permanent failure.
The source of the majority of my stress is leaving today for almost 3 weeks. My SIL is going to be living with us for a while. I didn't think it was going to be a big deal but the past three days have shown me otherwise. My procrastinating behaviors pale in the face of hers. And she ALWAYS wants to eat at a restaurant or bring home takeout. I cannot let this interfere with me and my plans. I have 3 weeks to get my act together, get myself in a good routine that can't be affected by her, and have my home organized so that whatever she does it will not get in my way.
Wish me luck - I am going to need it!