298 - my world went upside down
Sunday, March 24, 2013
Wow, it's been a really horrible week since my birthday.
There is a couple that we know who is going through a really nasty, ugly divorce. She was 14 when they started dating and is only 20 now. He is 30 (yup, he was 24 dating a 14-year-old). About 3-4 months ago he basically told her it was over, he had never loved her, was in love with somebody else, had been cheating on her and wanted a divorce. Nothing this girl could do broke him. He was done. He really broke her heart. She sat in my house and cried for 3 hours that night - she felt she had always been such a good wife, had given him her entire childhood/life, was never unfaithful to him, and thought they'd be together forever.
Well, that was until the day after my birthday. She told her soon-to-be ex-husband that she cheated on him with MY HUSBAND. Uh, ok. I have no doubt in my mind that she knew it would get a reaction out of her husband. I had to call the police that night to my house because he threatened to kill us. It was really horrible. I didn't sleep for days. South Beach went out the window. I'm not really surprised this happened - I never did like them and they are really toxic people. We had already started pulling away from them before this ever went down.
I've been having a hard time with it all. Not for a split second do I believe this girl. My husband is a good man. The day she came over and cried in my house she even told me how jealous she was of our relationship - it is so evident how much my husband loves me, she wishes her husband was like that. Anyway, blah, blah...I definitely didn't believe her lies. What gets me is that I just don't understand how a person could do this sort of thing - you're trying to get back at your husband, exact the only revenge you know to get some kind of emotional response out of him, and you don't care that you're hurting someone else? My husband tells me I'm a bit naive in that sense - he says I'm taking it personally when this is NOT personal. She isn't even thinking about US. We aren't even on her radar. We were a tool, she got a rise out of her husband at our expense, and that's it. I guess it's hard for me to fathom because I can't imagine ever doing that to somebody.
Anyway, that was my week. What a mess.
I didn't walk much. I ate horribly. Time to get back on the wagon. I'm not going to let toxic people get me down.