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Sometimes I read comments and articles and it shocks me how mean people are

Saturday, March 23, 2013

I was just reading an article about frozen dinners written by the nutritionist, Becky Hand. She says that frozen meals are okay as long as we take care to chose those that are within certain criteria (for fat, sodium, etc.). And then I was reading the comments below. And I was shocked by the hate and animosity in those comments. I understand the purists think that frozen foods are not the healthiest choicest available. And I don't disagree. I admire and respect those who can cook at home and make every meal from scratch using only organic and whole foods. I want to live that lifestyle too. I believe in it and trust me, I would do it if I could. But that is the thing -not all of us have the ability to manage that. I get up in the morning at 4:30 a.m. and I get home from work at 5:00 p.m. at the earliest, and often much later (yesterday it was 6:30 and it isn't unusual for it to be much later). I get home and somehow have to fit in eight hours of sleep, social time with friends, an hour or so of exercise, working on my crafts and hobbies (of which I have many). And in that time I must also plan meals, go to the store, cook and clean the house. I have a rough time of it and often find myself skimping on sleep. So it really upsets me when I read the comments from these folks. I appreciated reading this article because it gave me some guidelines on what to look for in frozen foods. I don't resort to them often, but in a pinch, they make my life easier. It isn't just that these people are saying, "Oh, these foods aren't good for us so I don't buy them." These people are real haters and are just plain mean and ugly about it! And this isn't the first time that I have read these sorts of comments on articles or blogs here on SparkPeople. Recently I read a forum post about dining out and it was the same sort of thing. These folks were just SLAMMING the person on this forum for eating out. The thing was, she was traveling for work and staying in hotels so she was not in a position to cook at all!

Today is Saturday and I cooked our lunch. I did use a recipe (some people don't use recipes because the food isn't good for us) and I tailored it to our needs. For example, it called for processed cheese slices. We don't use processed cheese here, and I don't buy slices of cheese, processed or not. So I used real cheddar - just grated it up and the food was delicious!

I am trying to do the best that I can in my situation. I am constantly trying to make improvements and do a better job nutritionally. I respect the choices that others make for food. If someone wants to eat only frozen meals, that is their choice - perhaps they are single and don't want to cook whole meals, or perhaps they are in a time crunch - for whatever reason, that is their choice. And on the other hand, I wish that I could be more like the clean food or whole food folks. In any case, SparkPeople is supposed to be a place where we support each other and help each other in our individual journeys, and that is what I intend to do.

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MYSTERIOUS-LADY 4/2/2013 11:08PM

    Well said. I agree. emoticon emoticon

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KELLYD2112 3/26/2013 10:55PM

    Wow, I haven't been on here long enough I guess to come up against this, but if I do I will just do what I always do when mean people cross my path - ignore them.

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INDIBLUE7240 3/26/2013 6:48AM

  I agree with you about the rude comments some people make. I always cringe when I see an article like that because it seems to be open season for that kind of response. I'm always grateful to the person who took the time to post the article, even if I might not agree with it. I sincerely appreciate sparkpeople.

Comment edited on: 3/26/2013 6:51:23 AM

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MUFFINSKI 3/25/2013 6:13PM

    What you say is, sadly, oh so true. I think it is a general lack of courtesy. For some reason, strangers feel they can tell you how to live your life and judge your personal choices. Perhaps it is due to the anonymity of the internet or the prevailing "nanny state" of our country. Whatever the reason, it certainly can be frustrating.
I believe in "Live and let live"! Be yourself and let the haters hate.

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    I agree with you 100%. And I applaud you for speaking out. Mean closed minded behaviour is found everywhere but that doesn't mean we have to stand idly by and do nothing. Just like we tell kids to stand up to bullying, we all, need to stand up to verbal and written bullying of the sort you are describing. Way to go! Stand proud and let us all be heard. And remember if you don't have anything nice to say, it is better to say nothing at all!!!

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ANATASHIKI 3/24/2013 5:21AM

    you are so right! emoticon

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AHTRAP 3/24/2013 1:58AM

    Purity trolls exist wherever a comment board exists on the internet. Some folks just can't help slamming their mind shut again anything contrary to what they think.

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WHOVIANGIRL23 3/24/2013 12:53AM

    I actually know exactly which article you were talking about, because I saw the same one. It's awful how people think they can be so hateful to someone else, just because they have different points of view. Thankfully, there are those of us who are normal, and agree to disagree,

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HUNGRYWOMAN2 3/24/2013 12:05AM

    Well said. I agree. As a community we were developed for support. emoticon

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MARIANNE9855 3/23/2013 10:58PM

    I think when people are mean it says more about them than who they are aiming their comments at. I think everyone does the best they can- people who are such elitests ought to remember many people go to bed hungry every night because they don't have ANY food and others can afford only the cheapest food which happens to be the most processed and artificial.
Its all about trying to do the best you can given your circumstances, and trying to keep yourself mentally and physically healthy. emoticon

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NDTEACHER1 3/23/2013 9:58PM

    People can be ugly, I don't think God will bless us much longer. We are a fallen nation. We hate what is good and love what is wrong. Sad, so very sad.

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LESSOFMOORE 3/23/2013 9:43PM


I totally agree with you! Spark on!

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STONECOT 3/23/2013 8:54PM

    I try not to buy frozen processed food, and try to make things from their raw ingredients, mostly because the frozen packaged foods contain so many cheap, nameless and tasteless ingredients! I prefer to have simple things, like scrambled eggs on toast, baked potato with cheese, or baked beans on toast as a quick and easy 'ready meal'. In the UK we have been hit with a scandal of horse DNA, being in found in our beef mince, burgers, lasagne, etc, and guess what... it's in all the cheaper options! There's nothing wrong with eating horsemeat, but I would like to know! So I will continue to avoid frozen ready meals, but I'm not a purist, it's up to everyone to make their own decision!

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CAMAEL100 3/23/2013 6:00PM

    I think they will end up 'eating' their words as no-one can be perfect 100% of the time and it is good to know how to limit the damage when one is stuck for time!

Always make sure your words are sweet as you never know when you have to eat them!

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SOPKAMANJU 3/23/2013 5:53PM

    amen emoticon

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TUDAFD 3/23/2013 3:32PM

    I haven't seen comments like this either. It's too bad that people have to be like that when, for the most part, we're all just doing the best we can with our own personal situations. What happened to the golden rule? I guess, as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror, and know you aren't one of those people, you can stand proud and tall.

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RASPBERRY56 3/23/2013 3:17PM

    I'm becoming more and more convinced that people are becoming meaner due to the worldwide economic situation......I, sadly, am a face of one nasty aspect of this, and I gotta sadly admit that I've not been on my, ahem, "best behavior" due to stress......I am working on improving that, though......

I've had to leave certain social areas due to the discomfort I've felt, not only by the actions of others, but my own lousy feelings as well.......

Just make sure you have a good, "safe" place to go to when you feel things are overwhelming you......

Hang in there, and know that you're not the only one who has noticed this - and kudos to you for your awareness! So many people are clueless, and continue to perpetuate the bad behavior.....

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/23/2013 3:07PM

    I haven't seen them, but there are some like that in every crowd. I just ignore and move on.

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THE_SHAKESHAFT 3/23/2013 3:05PM

    Be strong.

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GABBYABBY45 3/23/2013 3:01PM

    I have seen comments like that, and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. We all know processed foods aren't great for us, but personally if I've made something for dinner that doesn't fit into my calories for the day, I don't think twice - I get one of my frozen lean meals. Stick with your plans, and do the best you can, that's all any of us can do! emoticon

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MAWMAW101 3/23/2013 2:39PM

    I haven't come across these comments yet but am glad to know when I do that is is not the opinion of the good people who use this site. If they have everything down perfectly, what are they even on here for? Thanks for setting the record straight and the best to you--my heart goes out to you for all you are getting done!

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GERARLAUR 3/23/2013 2:35PM

    Ignore those hateful comments. These "better than though" folks don't know what they're talking about. Keep up the good work and don't let them get you down. They are NOT worth it. SMILE and be proud of what you are and who you are. emoticon

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BOOKWORM27S 3/23/2013 2:33PM

    I can relate.... I had to disable the comment feature on my page and blog because people were being so mean and judgemental.

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SPARCTICUS 3/23/2013 2:25PM

    Hang in there. Some people are just plain mean because it makes them feel better about their own state of misery. You deserve better!

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